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How To Kiss A Girl Well (In 3 Simple Steps)

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In most of my articles, I hardly go into depth about how to kiss a girl. Sexual escalation — like kissing a girl — is the result of sexual tension. Kissing is a “release” behaviour — something that releases “tension” created when interacting with a woman in a powerful masculine way.

I know that most guys out here want a thorough explanation of how to kiss a girl. (I noticed my inbox was flooded with the subject line “How to Kiss A Girl?”). That’s why I wrote this article on how to kiss a girl.

How to Kiss A Girl: It’s all about “pre-game.”

Most guys want to know how to kiss a girl and think that I’m going to hand them an answer that they can immediately apply in their interactions before pulling the trigger — kissing the girl — and become really successful at it.

But the fact is… kissing is all about 95% preparation and 5% taking action.

In simple words, the determining factor of whether or not a girl finds your kiss “hot” is established in the moments leading up to the kiss. The shortest timeline for this preparation and execution phase would be around 2 to 5 minutes.

However, if you’re on a date with a girl, the moments leading up to a kiss can take as long as 45 minutes to a couple of hours.

Quick word to all those guys who enjoys making out with girls: While you may feel cool to get instant kisses from girls you just randomly met on the streets, cafes, or malls (and I’m certainly not saying I am not part of this), kissing a girl too soon or rushing the build-up to a kiss is certainly not a very good idea for building a strong connection with a woman.

While instant kisses are awesome, I personally enjoy the build-up to a kiss better.

And many women agree on this too. No woman wants to feel like she’s a tongue receptacle for some aggressive horn-ball; rather, she wants a guy who understands how to create, maintain, and amplify sexual tension.

This post will focus on the essential aspects of the “pre-game.” Let’s begin with the most crucial aspect of the kiss…

Step #1 How to Kiss A Girl: Isolate Her

I know it’s an obvious fact that you need to “isolate” a girl to kiss her, but it’s still important to mention here. A memorable kiss is a moment shared between the two of you when there’s no one else around. Unless you’re “kissing your bride” at your wedding, you should really be conscious of the environment you and a girl are in.

Let me illustrate this point with an example: Last week, I was at a local bar chatting with this 26-year-old hot blonde who I felt a great connection with. We met because my friend was talking with her friend, and we naturally gravitated towards each other. Now, even though I wanted to kiss her (and the feeling was mutual – later she told me), I controlled myself for a very important reason: no discretion.

I didn’t want any girl to think that I’m some horny-ball who’ll jump at any opportunity to escalate sexually (and I’m sure most of you agree on this). While sexual escalation is very important, being able to display that you’re a sexually satisfied guy who is in control of his emotions is MORE important than actually having the guts to go for a kiss.

So, if you’re planning to kiss a girl, the first step is to wait until you’re in a location that is somewhat isolated and discrete. Now I am not saying that you guys need to be a one-on-one, inside closed doors before going for the kiss. But, make sure to respect her comfort levels and reputation. Most girls don’t like engaging in a public display of affection (PDA), so don’t blow your first great kiss before it even happens.

Make sure it’s a personal moment between the two of you and you have some privacy, before even going in for a kiss. This could be as simple as moving her 20 feet away from her friends, or as detailed as planning an instant date around taking her to a special “spot” where you know you’ll have some one-on-one time.

Step #2 How to Kiss A Girl: Build Tension

A great kiss doesn’t just happen. Instead, it’s a natural result of the moments that lead up to the kiss. Once you and a girl are in some “isolated” place, it’s crucial that you don’t just jump on her and expect a kiss. You still need to build sexual tension.

Now if you are not aware of what sexual tension is, then I highly suggest that you browse my blog (or read my book, “”). Creating sexual tension is essential for a great kiss.

The fastest and easiest way to build sexual tension is by being very bold and direct with a compliment. For example, you could say, “Wow, I wish you hadn’t worn this dress out tonite because it looks amazing on you, and now I can hardly think straight” is a great example. Why?

Here’s why: First of all, the compliment is funny but also very bold. You’re giving her a compliment, but you’re also “blaming” her on looking too good, which is more powerful than simply saying, “You look beautiful tonight.”

Using a very bold compliment like that will amplify the moment, and sets the stage for the kiss.

Step #3 How to Kiss A Girl: Be Shameless

Once you feel that “spark” called sexual tension, it’s time for you to pull the trigger and go in for the kiss. While this advice may sound so simple, it’s very difficult for most guys to follow. This is because most guys want to look for “signal” or “signs” that a girl wants to be kissed. Or worse, some guys even wait for a girl to kiss them (never happens!).

If you want to be a good kisser, you need to take charge of the situation. Don’t ask her if she wants to be kissed. Don’t drive yourself mad looking for the “signs” or “signals.” Don’t hesitate — a big mistake. Instead, just lean in and kiss her.

In short, execute shamelessly.

Now, of course, a girl will reject your first attempt at kiss — which is totally fine. Most likely, it has nothing to do with you. So do not feel rejected! Just respect her boundary, and go back into being normal. Here’s a rule to remember: If you go for a kiss, but the girl doesn’t kiss you back, BUT she is still talking to you… she wants to kiss you but only needs more time.

In fact, if you really want a “signal” to know 100% whether or not a woman is interested in kissing you, simply go for the kiss and see what happens. If she’s still standing there, you passed! She wants to be kissed (even if she didn’t let you kiss her right there and then.)

So there you have it: how to kiss a woman in 3 simple steps. Don’t over analyze. Don’t over complicate it. Have confidence in yourself and kiss her.

How to Flirt With Women

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If you want to get better results with women — get more phone numbers, more dates, more instant dates, kisses, and more lays — then you need to learn how to flirt with women.

But a lot of interactions with women goes on something like this:

A guy approaches a girl, talks with her. The conversation is going well, but the guys sense there’s no “chemistry” — the girl doesn’t make it any easier for him, and doesn’t give any signs that she likes him.

Soon, he runs out of what to say next and decide to “exit” from the interaction rather than risk being rejected or running out of things to say.

If you don’t know how to make conversation with a girl in a flirtatious, playful, and fun, then you’ll realize soon the interaction becomes boring and she’ll eventually lose interest in YOU.

She’ll walk away from you and into the arms of some other guy who knows how to flirt with women — a guy who knows how to turn her ON by being flirty, playful, and interesting.

It’s sad, but it happens almost all the time. I used to be that guy who didn’t know how to flirt with women.

I have lots of friends, make good money, and I hit the gym almost every day… but until I learned all the important flirting skills, I was always pushed in that sinkhole called the “friend zone.”

So if you are insecure, shy, and just clueless about how to spark that fire called “attraction” in women, then you’re going to LOVE this article, because I’m going to reveal you “a simple plan” that you can immediately read, absorb, and apply in your interactions and get MASSIVE RESULTS with girls or women.

But before I reveal you my simple plan, let me tell you what flirting is:

What is Flirting?

A lot of guys struggle with this skill because they friggin’ don’t have a clue what flirting is. Rather, a lot of guys think that being flirty means delivering cheesy dialogues they see an actor deliver to a girl in the movie, or even worse, they think it is all about giving a woman a lot of compliments.

You’re not going to go home with a girl or a woman if you over compliment her. In fact, you should avoid giving any compliments to a girl until she feels some kind of attraction towards you. Instead, try to focus on “the simple plan” that I’m going to reveal to you below.

So Again, What Is Flirting Exactly?

Flirting is a fun, playful, and interesting way of conversing with a girl or a woman that immediately lets her know that you’re interested in her… without actually having to say the words.

Instead, you tell her you’re interested in her by doing things like:

  • Bantering with her
  • Teasing her
  • Playing games with her (becoming “partners in crime”)

If you don’t know what banter is, how to tease women, and what games you need to play, then don’t worry. I’m going to talk about each of these things, and give you a lot of examples so that you can understand it, memorize it, and apply it in your interaction with women, starting tonight.

How to Tease Girls

The best way — also the easiest way — to flirt with women is to playfully tease her. The teasing should not be rude or offensive, though. Instead, teasing should be fun and good-hearted. You tease her about her, what she says, and her behaviour.

As you learn to listen and observe girls or women during an interaction, you’ll eventually start to flirt with her on a number of things, like:

  • Being “naive” or “gullible”
  • Seeming “bossy”
  • Having a “wild” side
  • Being “blonde”

Another way to flirt with women is to invite her to play a game with you. If she’s a smart girl, you can play a spelling bee game . It’s fun, playful, and it gets the two of you engaged in some sort of game.

You can also tease a woman without even opening your mouth. You can walk straight into her path and force her to stop so that she can’t walk past you.

You can tickle her, swat her with a straw, or do the old “you’ve got a spider on your shirt” routine.

What are the flirting lines you can use tonight…

When you’re starting to learn how to flirt with women it’s always a good idea that you have “canned” flirting lines at your disposal so that you can use it anywhere, anytime with women. When you’re interacting with a girl, it’s really hard to think of something original to say. Instead, you can use these lines to tease women:

  • If a girl spills her drink say, “Bartender, you need to cut her off”
  • If she’s acting a little brat say “Did you wear cranky pants on this morning?”
  • If a girl says something geeky say “You often hang around at the library, don’t you?”

These are only a handful of lines you can say to a girl. I’ve actually written a “cheat sheet” of funny, playful, and effective banter lines that you can use in almost all kinds of situations.

Download the Free Banter Line Report.

How to Flirt With A Women To Create Sexual Tension

Sexy body language

Listen. Teasing and flirting are the same.

One thing you must always remember is… what your body is saying is as important as what you are saying. Most of the times, guys are scared, nervous, and shy about talking to women, and hence, their body language is bad too — their posture is bad, their eyes are moving around all over the place, they are shaking and moving a lot — which can make you seem you’re not confident in what you’re saying to a girl, and make her think you’re not as “cool” as you pretend to be.

This is why displaying a sexy body language is as important as the words that come out of your mouth.

Here are a few examples of being flirty through your body language:

  • Talking slowly with her (not talking too fast)
  • Smiling slowly at her (nervous or obnoxious grin)
  • Holding a looooong eye contact with her
  • Appearing relaxed and laid back
  • Briefly touching her as you talk

If you combine both the verbal and non-verbal flirting skills then you’ll get the girl give you the signals that she likes you.

Flirting signs to look for

How can you tell if a girl is flirting with you or simply being nice? Find some best indicators below.

If you’re interacting with a girl and start to sense a good ‘vibe’ with her, here’s what you must look for in order to figure out whether or not she’s feeling it too.

  1. She gets a little closer to you.
  2. She keeps holding the eye contact… and then quickly look away
  3. She smiles at you. It will be a slow smile, not a forced or nervous smile.
  4. She finds reasons to talk to you
  5. She asks what your name is and other personal information about you, first
  6. She gives you a nickname. (Very powerful flirting sign)
  7. She asks you if you’re single or how old you are
  8. She touches you lightly during an interaction
  9. She moves closer to you as the two of you are talking
  10. She laughs at your jokes… even the unfunny ones
  11. She comes up with future plans with you (she’ll mention a band that she wants you to see)
  12. She sends you random texts
  13. She becomes jealous when you talk to other girls
  14. She becomes eager to introduce you to her friends
  15. She teases you about something
  16. She calls you a “player” … or a “heartbreaker”
  17. She asks you if you have a girlfriend
  18. She plays with her hair as she is talking to you
  19. She gives you a lot of compliments
  20. She tries to keep the conversation going so that you don’t leave

The Art of Flirting With Women

There is much more you can learn about the art of flirting that I can cover in this article, so that’s why I have crafted this 27-page manuscript called “Make Her Horny & Crave For Sex (In Just 3 Simple Steps)” where I show you, step-by-step, how to turn a nice, boring, and safe conversation into much more fun, playful and flirtatious.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this brand new report:

Aby

P.S. I almost forgot…

You might be intimidated by the thought of learning this ‘new’ skill… but let me tell you this: it’s not as hard as you might have imagined it to be. Really, attracting hot chicks is easy, and this report will show you exactly how to flirt with women in a way that gets her glued on to you so that you can easily ‘pull the trigger’ – kiss her, ask her phone number, take her out on a date, and, eventually, take her back to your apartment.

Grab your copy of Make Her Horny & Crave For Sex (In Just 3 Simple Steps) while it is still available for free. 🙂

How To Make Conversation With A Girl (And Immediately Build Solid Connection)

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How To Make Conversation With A Girl

So you’re good at approaching a girl anywhere — in the streets, malls, cafes, or other public places — and getting her attention, but you run out of things to say to her, and watch her walk away with a “I have to go!” line? Then you need to learn how to make a conversation with a girl and build a quick connection so that she’ll stay in the conversation, tell you more about her, and also give you her phone number so that you can ask her out on a date, if you’re really interested in her.

This article will help you learn simple yet powerful ways on how to hold a conversation with a girl:

#1 how to make conversation with a girl: Ask her questions.

By asking questions, you immediately show to a girl you’re interested in her, while in the back of your mind, you decide whether or not she’s worth your time. A great question always make a girl laugh, think, and like you, simultaneously.

Avoid asking closed ended questions — questions that yields only yes’ or ‘no’ responses.

For example: If you ask a girl, “Hey, did you like the movie last week?” you’ll only get either a “yes” or “no” answer, but may not lead into a much meaningful conversation. Instead, ask her, “Which was your favourite movie and WHY she likes it?”

This type of open-ended questions yields a much longer answer from her.

#2 how to make conversation with a girl: Lead the interaction. Girls wants guys who can take the lead, not the other way around. Be ‘proactive’ and take the lead — ask her questions, first — in the interaction.

Once she answers your question, simply nod back and give your opinion. This will help strike up a balance in the interaction, where you find interesting things about her, while you also reveal some part of your personalities to her.

#3 how to make conversation with a girl: Figure out about her passions.

People love to talk about their interests and hobbies. If you’re talking to this girl, chances are there’s something interesting about her too.

Ask her what she likes to do for fun? It’ll immediately help you avoid asking boring questions, like what she does for a living or where she went ot study, etc, and launch into something she really enjoys doing.

Few things to keep in mind: Make sure you’re genuinely interested in her, and ask her questions accordingly, not just to get her to talk to you. If you’re insincers, women can pick it up from a mile away and she’ll leave the interaction, within seconds.

#4 how to make conversation with a girlBuild a connection.

The easiest and quickest way to build a connection with a girl is to let them talk about themselves and get to know them a little bit more. You ask her a question about her passions, hobbies, or interests, and then, you ask her WHY she does WHAT she does, WHY she likes WHAT she likes. (A lot of guys don’t this, they only talk on a “surface level” with a girl.)

Here’s how most guys talk with a girl:

Guy: “Do you like music?”
Girl: “Yes, I love listening to Whitney Houston!”
Guy: “Me too, I love Whitney and Mariah Carey!” and they change the topic.

By doing this, you don’t find more about her, what makes her special, and what makes her tick.

You need to go a little bit deep in your interaction with a girl to get to know her a little bit more, to create a solid connection with her. So, once you’ve asked a question and she answers you back, try to go a little bit deeper, by asking her WHY she does what she does, WHY she likes what she likes.

This way, the conversation will flow, naturally and easily.

Here’s how to make conversation with a girl and build solid connection:

Guy: “Do you like music?”
Girl: “Yes, I love listening to Whitney Houston!”
Guy: “WHY do you like to listen to Whiteney?”
Girl: “Oh I love how much effort, energy, and passion she puts when she’s performing on the stage. I love her because I feel she’s a passionate woman who likes to give everything — her soul, mind, and heart — when she is doing something that she genuinely cares about, which also inspires me to give my best in everything I love do.”

Did you notice the difference between the first and second examples?

When you build a strong connection with a girl, she won’t easily forget about you, because no other guy talked with her like that.

#5 how to make conversation with a girl: Strike up a balance.

An interaction has to be like a ping-pong match. A ball keeps moving back and forth across the table and each player on either side of the table gets to hit the ball one time. That’s how you must make conversation with a girl — she talks 50% of the time and you talk 50% of the time.

By striking up a balance, you give her time to contribute in an interaction, which makes her feel valued and been listened. You immediately stand out from the pack of boys — some guys can’t keep their mouth shut, which makes a girl feel she’s watching a TV show, while others ask too many questions, without contributing anything in the interaction — and make a lasting first impression her.

#6 how to make conversation with a girl: Be comfortable with pauses.

Of course, you’re not going to be able to come up topic after topic to talk to a girl during an interaction, and that’s totally fine. Pauses are natural part of the interaction. A lot of guys get scared of using pauses in an interaction, and they immediately rush in to fill the silences, hoping the girl won’t walk way.

But taking pauses in between the conversations allows your mind to take a break — gives you enough time to think — so that you can come up with another topic to talk to a girl.

So take a sip from your drink, keep smiling, and look around the room, until you come up with something to say to her. Be confident and interested in her, and she’ll wait with anticipation for what you’re going to say next. Avoid looking down at your feet and feel nervous, which, in turn, makes her feel uncomfortable.

Here’s how to take pauses to come up with a conversation topic:

When you take a pause, appear as if you’re trying to think what to say next. She’ll be invested in the interaction trying to figure out what you’re going to say next. She may also feel compelled to fill the silence with her own conversation.

Pauses can also gives her an opportunity to ‘impress’ YOU. During the pause, you subtely invite her to take the initiative. If she does, you’ll know she’s enjoying talking to you.

#7 how to make conversation with a girl: Keep it light and funny.

DO NOT fall into controversial topics or anything that is sensitive — politics, religion, sex, or technical stuffs — with her, which can make her uncomfortable and serious. Keep the conversation light and funny and get her laughing, giggling, and feeling really good in your presence.

And, test the water before you say anything that she might think offensive or mean.

Share jokes and stories with her — particularly funny things that happened to you. If you can’t think of anything, take some time to come up with a few and keep a list of funny or entertaining things to tell to a girl when you meet her in public places.

#8 how to make conversation with a girl: Pay attention to your body language.

Look at her, into her eyes. Stand tall and sit up straight. Smile with your eyes. When you do all these, she’ll feel as if you’re focused on her.

Watch her body language too. If she makes eye contact with you, or lightly touches you in the arm, or slighlty leads forward towards you while you’re talking to her, then you can know for certain that she’s into you.

OTOH, if she’s constantly checking her mobile, looking away, fiddling with her drink, or looks like she can’t wait to make an exit, then she might not be highly interested in you. You can say something like, “Hey, are you having a bad day? You look like you’re 1000 miles away.” Or, if she doesn’t seem all that interested, just politely say, “Hey, nice talking to you” and walk away.

#9 how to make conversation with a girl: Keep your focus on her.

Keep the spotlight on her and let her know that you think she’s important. Try to focus all your attention mainly on her, rather than talking about yourself. Ask her questions and try to know WHY she likes/does the things she shares with you. And, if she asks you a question, make it short and sweet, and immediately put the spotlight back to her. Let her gums flap, guys.

Few things to remember: Turn of your phone when you’re talking to a girl. If you run into your friends, introduce her to your friends but remain focused on her. Try to send non-verbal signals to your friends letting them know that they need to talk to you some other time.

#10 how to make conversation with a girl: End the interaction on a positive note.

Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her and getting to know her. If you feel a connection, go for the phone number. Wait for a day or two, and send her a text saying that you had a great time. If she texts you back, you might get another chance to meet her and continue with that initial conversation.

Few things to remember:

  • Wait at least a day before you call/text her, because you don’t want to come across as too forward, and at the same time, you don’t want to appear as a needy guy. So wait for a day or two before contacting her.
  • Keep things short and sweet when you call/text her. Text or call her to set up a date to go out and grab a drink or visit a museum, or anything you like to do with her.
  • Keep things low key until you’re sure she likes you. She might feel a bit weird if you’re pushing really hard while she’s not. Strike up a balance and keep the conversation flowing.

Thanks for reading.

Now go out and make it happen.

Abishek

P.S. Here are few related articles on communication skills.

P.P.S. These conversation tips with a grl can help you become a better conversationalist and a great listener, and help you better results with women — more phone numbers, dates, and even casual/serious relationships.

If you want to learn more things to say to a girl you like and never run out things to say, and make your interactions effective so that you get more phone numbers, dates, and casual/serious affairs, in the shortest time possible, then here’s a kick-ass resource.

How To Start A Conversation With A Girl (3 Simple Tricks)!

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You don’t have a clue as to how to start a conversation with a girl?

Starting a conversation with a girl is the BIGGEST hurdle a lot of guys have difficulty overcoming. Many guys are unable to think of “what to say” when approaching a girl all by herself in public places — streets, cafes, malls, metro stations, etc.

All of these questions might pop up in your head if you had to start a conversation with a girl:

  • Do I use some cheesy sleazy pickup line?
  • Should I ask for her opinion?
  • Should I be indirect or direct?

You can use any of these three methods to start a conversation with a girl, but the harsh truth is that you still need to take action, first. A girl or a woman is not going to do that — approach and talk — for you. So if you want to talk to a girl, you’ll have to approach her.

So how to start a conversation with a girl?

There are several best way to start a conversation with a girl or a woman, but in this post, you’ll find 3 simple ways to start up a conversation with anyone. I have personally field-tested each one of these tactics when approaching a beautiful girl, and they works like CRAZY!

#1 Ways To Start A Conversation: ‘The Facial Expression Trick’

Let me be honest with you. When I was starting out in daytime pickup, my approaching skills sucked. Like most guys out there, I hated the idea of approaching a beautiful woman and striking a conversation. So one of the clever thing I have done for myself is to build an attractive lifestyle and get women to do all the legwork. Yeah, it’s kind of lazy, but it works almost all the time, you see. 🙂

But I know that the only way to meet a beautiful girl in the street is to be a MAN and approach her.

Now, I am not a big fan of using long and complicated conversation starters. There’s too much to memorize. Instead, I use stuffs that is direct and simple, which also get the ball rolling.

Who wants to waste 10 minutes telling awkward story, hoping the woman will find it interestingIf I’m going to fail, why not fail fast, right?

So whenever I see an attractive woman, I use my facial ‘trick’ conversation starter, which works almost all the timeWith this simple trick, you can approach a girl without even uttering a word from your mouth.

When you’re in public spaces — streets, malls, cafes, or anywhere else — the natural thing to do is to observe who is around you. Your goal is to use your surroundings to your advantage.

And, once you see a girl…

You approach her and say whatever comes to your mind.

While doing so, hold eye contact with her, and smile. 🙂

And, whatever she’s saying/doing at that moment, flash an over-exaggerated look at her, which will make her giggle. I like to flash a funny and playful face.

Now, you might be wondering, Why this conversation starter works?

Here’s why: Most guys act too serious when they’re in a social settings like a club, bar, or a cafe. They’re self-conscious to be themselves, and they act they’re busy to give off that ‘tough guy’ vibe. I was that guy, too. 🙂

To set yourself from these pack of guys, what you should do, from now on, is show her that you don’t really give a damn about the OUTCOMEThat you don’t take life too seriously. By showing a girl or a woman that you’re playful and demonstrating that through expression, you show to her that you are ‘a FUN guy.’

Without even saying a word, she’ll immediatly know that you’re the type of guy she’ll be interested to meet.

For me, I say something like, ‘Hey, did you get my text message?’ (if she was reading something on her mobile). This only gets her to laugh even more.

So what type of faces you should make to start a conversation with a girl… without speaking?

Remember, there’s no hard and fast rule. But at least try to get her laugh.

Here are a few examples:

  • Give her a ‘pouty’ look
  • Stick your tongue out
  • Give her a mock-embarrassed look.
  • Show the exaggerated ‘pick up artist wink.’ 😉
  • Show a fake a suspicious look — like you’re not sure why she’s looking at you.
  • Do a mock ‘in love’ expression — grab your chest and flutter your eyes
  • Send a quick wave
  • Give a quick head tilt (like the “what’s up” expression)
  • Pretend to be really angry and then crack up into a smile.
  • Display big ‘shit-eating-grin’ smile. 😀

At this point in time, you must be thinking, How will it help me start a conversation with a girl?

Let me give you an example. I learned this trick from one of my close friends who was really good with women. He isn’t the most handsome guy in the room, but he’s pretty successful with women.

A few years back in time, he met his recent girlfriend at a nightclub. After talking with her and making an eye contact, he went to great lengths to make her laugh (at my expense, I might say.)

Being such a great friend that he is, Aaron ‘threw me under the bus’ just to get a laugh.

As I was busy talking with other people, he just looked over to this girl as she was talking with her friends, and all of a sudden, he started to do ‘fake-choking’ himself pointing at me with a smug look on his face. And before I could ask Aaron what the hell he was doing, he was across the room busy talking with his future girlfriend.

This brief story brings up a few KEY points:

  • You do not have to rely on pick up lines or gimmicks to start a conversation with a girl
  • Just a warm smile and a friendly attitude can be your ‘secret’ weapon of getting girls.

A few pointers: When using facial expression, she might look away from you, initially. And making an eye contact with a complete stranger could be uncomfortable for a lot of guys. But if you keep on practicing with more women, it will become easy and natural part of your life.

Oftentimes, a girl will look away for a while and then wait for a few seconds before looking back again.  And when she is doing this, MAKE SURE you do not turn away. Instead, keep smiling at her or nodding your head at her or use any of the ‘funny expressions‘ I just mentioned above to you.

Remember THIS: Just by being ‘playful,’ you can make any girl talk with you. And when you get a positive response — an enticing smile — from her, the only thing you’ll have to do is… learn how to approach a girl at first sight.

#2 Ways To Start A Conversation: ‘Ask For Her Opinion

The ‘opinion’ opener is also a great way to start a conversation with a girl. And applying this simple technique is surprisingly easy. You’ll have to approach a girl and ask for her opinion on things.

The ‘opinion opener’ does three things for you:

First of all, it allows you to start a conversation with a girl.

Secondly, it helps you get her attention — she has million other things to get distracted about.

And thirdly, it allows you to transition into getting to know her better mode.

That’s why this conversation starter is very different from other method because it sounds very natural, which is unlike any corny pickup lines that most guys use without any success.

Here’s WHY asking for a woman’s opinion WORKS:

  • Women LOVE to offer their opinions.
  • You can use the response you get from her and use it as a follow-up conversation.
  • You’re not outrightly displaying your intentions.
  • You become more interesting than other guys who don’t approach her.
  • Here are other few critical elements about ‘opinion opener’:

Insider tips: Try to make your opinion an open-ended question so that her response will be more than just a simple ‘Yes’ or ‘No.’

Secondly, if there other people in the group, involve everyone, and not just the girl you’re interested in. Do this to every group you approach so that they’ll get an impression you’re a FUN, outgoing guy.

Thirdly, to make the ‘opinion opener’ even more effective, give yourself a time constraintIf the group knows that you’re only going to stay there for a few minutes, then they’ll be more likely to open up with you and be friendly. You can easily accomplish this by starting the conversation like this: “Hey guys. A quick question…”

So you see constructing an opinion opener isn’t that difficult. You just have to sit down and think about 3 to 4 engaging questions you can ask any women.

Here are few opinion openers that I have used in the past, which worked really well with the ladies:

“Hey guys, just a quick question… My buddy and I was were having an argument yesterday that I hope you guys can settle…”

“We were having a discussion about our other close friend who cheated on her girlfriend and was caught red-handed…”

“Unfortunately, his girlfriend found this other girl’s g-string underneath his bed. To cover for himself, my friend told his girlfriend that he has a fetish for wearing women’s underwear. What’s really interesting is his girlfriend totally loves his new idea and makes him wear this G-string…”

“So can you guys help me solve this argument once and for all? What do you think: should he continue to cover himself or should he be honest with his girlfriend?”

Well, these opinion opener has been used by many guys in the past. So you’ll have to come up with something that’s a little bit different.

The main element I want you to pay attention is to the elements of humor, drama, and interest that’s been used in this opener. Remember to use all of these elements to create your own opener.

#3 Ways To Start A Conversation: ‘Go Direct

This conversation starter doesn’t require you to play any ‘mind games’ with the ladies. Many guys think they need a ‘magical line’ to talk to women. But that’s really not true.

Sometimes, being direct generates the best result.

Here’s what I mean: You approach a girl you’re interested and immediately let her know you want to get to know her better. To do this, you don’t use any pickup lines, gimmicks, and opinions. You simply let her know that you saw something interesting about her — the way she’s walking, her hairstyle, the earrings, or her long black coat — and you want to know more.

And, make sure to mention to her that you liked something about her that doesn’t have anything to do with her looks. So it should be an opener that relates to her action, behavior, or her style, rather than her attractiveness. That way you won’t seem to her as another corny pickup artist. Instead you’ll come across as ‘a confident guy’ who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid/shy to go for it.

In my case, I use different versions of this conversation starter when I do daytime pickup. I walk up to a woman and tell her how busy I am, but then there was something intriguing about her that really made me want to go and talk to her.

For example, I often say something like to start a conversation with a girl:

“Hey, I am on my way to (insert whatever you’re doing), but you seem like a friendly person (or, I like your long green coat that make your look classy and stylish) and I could not help but come up to you and say ‘Hi.’ My name is…”

Of course, this is a direct way of starting a conversation with women. She can either choose to get to know you better or she might say no. It’s like high risk/high reward thing.

Remember: With this conversation starter, you’ll often get rejected because the woman often has your looks and body language to judge you by. So if you’re not displaying a confident attitude, then she might blow you off.

But trust me when I say this: When the direct opener works, it really WORKS. If she’s interested in you, you can say goodbye to a lot of game playing that you often have to deal with indirect openers.

Rather, you’ll head to the point where you both know you like each other. It’s also a great way to escalate things physically with the girl.

Depending on the situation (and what you want), you may want to use variety of adjectives other than ‘nice’ or ‘cool.’

Here are few powerful adjectives you can use to make your direct opener even more effective:

  • Interesting
  • Intriguing
  • Funny
  • Amusing
  • Fascination
  • Awesome
  • Intoxicating

With this conversation starter, your action becomes random. If you do your approach right, you’ll come across as a confident guy who she has been fated to meet.

A great advice: The direct opener works really well during daytime pickup when you don’t have a lot of time to talk with people. Because of this, you’ll get right to the point, talk to her only for few minutes, and if you’re interested in her, ask for her number.

I highly recommend that you approach at least 5 to 10 women a day using this technique.

Thanks for reading.

Abishek

P.S. BTW, here are more free articles on how to start a conversation with women:

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7 ‘Deadly’ Mistakes Guys Make With Women

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7 'Deadly' Mistakes Guys Make With Women

Hey,

Most men make all kinds of ‘deadly’ mistakes with women — and they do not even have a clue about it. STOP doing anything else and study these top mistakes, revealed in this article, first.  

Personally, I believe the fastest and the easiest way to SKYROCKET your results with women, almost overnite is to…

… STOP doing all the things that might be hampering your successes with women, right now.

7 ‘Deadly’ Mistakes Guys Make With Women

Here are 7 deadly mistakes guys make with women:

MISTAKE #1: “Making Your Move Before She’s Even Ready”

I have done it more than I can count, so if you’re making this mistake, I can understand your pain.

You see a beautiful chick sitting across the room, and you develop a strong feelings for her — you can’t help it — and you start to have this thought raging in your mind: “If only I could show her how I felt about her, she’d be interested in me…”

If you’re like most men, you probably said this to yourself, countless of times, and you  probably regretted doing it, because you suddenly realize it NEVER works. In fact, demonstrating your “feelings” to a girl, especially in the early stages of the dating process, is a MEGA turn-off to most women.

It’s way better if SHE makes the move first.

This way, you can simply lean back and let HER do most of the WORK.

In fact, this is what one of my exes told me few years ago: “I’d rather be IN LOVE with a guy that BE LOVED by him.

I know, it’s counter-intuitive. But if you pay attention to the scientific data on the differences between men and women… you’ll realize that it’s simply our biological programming.

Women like it more when they’re the one chasing YOU… rather than the other way around.

And, the best part is it’s a lot easier, too…

MISTAKE #2: “Showing ‘too’ much interest and chasing women!”

When you CHASE a girl, you revolve your entire life around her. You are emotionally invested in her more than SHE is invested in you.

Here are few examples:

  • You call or text her MORE than she does to you.
  • You give her MORE compliments than she gives to you.
  • You buy her gifts and drinks just to WIN her affection and she doesn’t do any of that sort to you.

And, when you’re invested more than her, she can feel it, because women are very sensitive to this type of thing, and once a woman senses you’re doing the CHASING, this is what she’ll be thinking about you: “Okay, it is pretty obvious that this guy is into me and I have wrapped him around my finger. And, yeah, he is a ‘nice guy’ and I can have him whenever I want, so for a moment, let me see what else is out there first…”

When you CHASE her, you become one of her options. And, if she’s very attractive, you can already imagine that she has plenty of options, already.

After spending thousands of hours with countless attractive women in the past, here’s what I’ve come to realise (it’s quite shocking): An average woman has at least 3 guys chasing her at any given time in her life… (and if she was going outside and meeting men actively, that number can be MUCH higher!)

That’s why it’s really important for you to be that HIGH VALUE guy that makes her CHASE YOU, rather than the other way around…

MISTAKE #3: “Having no clue how women think”

A man and a woman is entirely different from each other, because a man and a woman can have completely different impressions of the same exact situation.

For example, last week, I got stuck with my girlfriend in an elevator, and when we got out, I realized that we’re both focusing on an entirely different things. I was focusing on the “logical” aspects of things, like how to get the doors open, and how to get her attention, among other things, while she was totally immersed in the different emotions of the experience! She was experiencing fear and excitement, and at the same time, building an emotional bonding with me.

Here’s what I want you to understand: Men are dominated by logic and reasonings, on the other hand, a woman’s mind is directed and dominated by emotion, and the strange thing about it that, most of the time what she is thinking and feeling doesn’t even make any sense to her.

That’s why a woman wants a man who truly understands her on a much deeper level — understands her feelings — which is so valuable and rare to her, just like a football coach is highly valuable to a football player.

And even though “From The Streets…To The Sheets” was initially created to help you build skills to approach, connect, and seduce any woman in the streets, it also comes with a STAGGERING “side effect…”

You’re going to understand her even BETTER than she knows herself…  

Okay, moving on to other mistakes…

MISTAKE #4: “Being the nice guy”

When I was having problems with women and didn’t have any success with women, one thought always confused me: “How come a woman say they like boys to be nice with them (nice guys), but always end up with an abusive jerk?”

I never understood this… until recently when a “light-bulb moment” happened to me.

I was out at a party with my girlfriend and her friends. And, after a couple of drinks, I remember, all of her friends started to complain about all the jerks they were dating, and how they only wanted a nice guy…

Later, I asked my girlfriend about it, and…

Here’s what she told me: “Oh yeah, but that’s just we girls are supposed to say. It makes us look nice and sweet to want a nice guy… but deep down inside us, we don’t FEEL anything for nice guys. So most of us end up dating a jerk, instead.”

Counter-intuitive, isn’t it?

But here’s the good news: You DO NOT have to become a jerk to fire up a strong emotions in her…

MISTAKE #5: “Making too many excuses for yourself (too short, too bald, too broke, too old, etc)”

I notice that a lot of guys who visit our site often have to say things like: “If only I was 1 inch taller, meeting and seducing a woman would be much easier… If only I had lost 30 pounds, I would find me sexy and go out on a date… I’ll start dating women only I starts making more money…”

I totally understand why you say this to yourself, because I used to be that guy too who used to make a lot of excuses (Asian, short, not enough money, poor clothing, etc) to make me feel better about getting rejected and not getting the kind of girl I truly wanted (girly and feminine girls).

I thought it was not me actually, but something outside of me — external thing — that was controlling me and I really didn’t have any control over it…

But, if you look at the guys who did original research on developing a system, you’ll notice that they’re all “old scientists” and “college professors” — old, nerdy, and totally out of shape guys — who didn’t even have hair on their head to speak of, and one of them was even in a wheelchair…

These guys wanted to date all the hot chicks in their college. So they built up Daytime Pickup: From The Cafes, Malls & Streets… To The ‘Bedroom’ (The Natural Progression)” to be the great equalizer… something that could give them an unfair advantage over the tall, good-looking, and muscular boys whose parents were paying everything for them.

Look, every guy on this planet has SOME disadvantage, but at the end of the day, the guy who ends up with that HOT chick is the one who takes MASSIVE ACTION with the ladies… without making any excuses for himself and his desires.

MISTAKE #6: “Trying to impress a woman”

We MEN work hard and we want to be respected for that. I get it, totally…

That’s how we operate.

We work hard, get a promotion, and make more money, and we buy us nice things, and we want other people to know about it.

NOTHING’s wrong about it. We men are entitled to get a fair share of recognition… but, remember this: Never try to impress a woman you’re trying to attract.Why?

Here’s why: If you’re trying to impress a woman, she’ll view it as HUGE insecurity in your part. So don’t do it. Women can smell it from million miles away because they have “sixth” sense to detect male insecurities.

MISTAKE #7: “Not getting help”

I know that as men, we don’t want to look weak or helpful, and that’s why, most guys out there do not even stop and seek for a help when they’re really need one. They do not stop and ask for a direction even if they’re lost.

That is because we men are too proud to try and “figure it all ourselves”…

I had several friends who were really good with women, but I never considered asking for their help.

Before, I used to go out with girls who viewed me only as a friend. And, since, I was such ‘a nice guy’ myself, I followed them wherever they used to go. Fred, one of my close friends, whom I consider is very good with women, wanted to offer me some advice on dating and seduction, but I told him no, it’s okay and I ‘got this.’

So, I did all kinds of stupid mistakes with women, that could have easily been prevented only if I was listening to guys who were really successful with women.

Here’s how I was like: On a date, I used to change all of my plans for her. I would immediately agree on everything she would say. I would listen to her past stories about ‘jerks’ who mistreated her. I would buy flowers, sing songs, write bad poetry, and follow her all day like a young puppy following his master.

After the first date, that girl would never return my calls for the second reason.

I thought I would make my move after I became ‘friends’ with her.

No wonder I got “friendzone” a lot of times during the initial stages of my daygame pickup phase.

One important lesson I learned from all of my “rookie” mistakes with girl was this: You do not get better by doing the same mistakes over and over again. You do not get better by getting rejected over and over.

Most guys never seek out help from guys who are naturals with women, and hence, they never really improve. They only end up being more fearful, anxious, and nervous as they become older.

Now, I am at the point where I know what really turns a woman on… I have no problem meeting women when I’m out in the street.

I know how to get their numbers. I know where to take them on dates, and currently, I am seeing at least 2 to 3 new girls every week.

By this, my quality of life has improved dramatically. I no longer experience that dreaded approach/social anxiety. I know how to weed out uninterested women, and go for the ones that are highly interested in ME.

Go out and make it happen.

Aby

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This system will change your life. It doesn’t matter if you’re shy, short, tall, young, old, bald, or broke, because it’s not your usual be-the-tough-guy dating advice.

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How To Get A Date (Within 15 Minutes)!

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How to get a date

Do you want to learn how to get a date with a girl or a woman?

Going out on a date with someone you already know can be quite fun for both of you, but, asking for a date to a total stranger can be quite difficult if you don’t know how.

That’s why I wrote this article — how to get a date — for you.

Learning few daytime pickup secrets can help you become better at interacting with a girl or a woman you see in the streets, cafes, or malls, and increase your chances of getting a date, later.

Here are few simple tactics you can immediately apply in your daytime pickup on how to get a date:

How to get a date tip #1: Approach her, immediately — in less than 3 seconds

When you see a cute girl walking in the street, you must make your move, quickly.

Do not allow yourself to give more than 3 seconds — the ‘3-second rule’ — to approach a girl or a woman you’d like to meet.

When you don’t approach her as soon as you see her, you mind can come up with all kinds of excuses, like:

  • “Wow, she’s super hot, and I loook like a nerd. Why on earth would she talk to me?”
  • “What if she makes fun of me? What if she laugh at me in front of everyone?”
  • “I will not talk to her now, because she seems busy with her friends.”

… that can stop you from approaching a girl you’d like to meet, immediately.

But, when you don’t give yourself that opportunity, by approaching her within 3 seconds, you don’t give your mind any chance to come up with excuses. Instead, you’ll be ‘in the moment’ and ‘out of your head’ and talking to her.

How to get a date tip #2: Deliver your opener… with a smile.

Your opener doesn’t have to be original or creative. It could be any pickup lines you may have memorized from the Internet, or it could be just a simple “Hi.”

Once you’ve said “Hi” to her… do not immediately deliver your opener. Instead, take a loooooooooooooong pause, smile, and lock your eyes with hers, and deliver this opener.

“It’s random I know, but I had to come over to you and say hi because I think you look really great in that outfit and I like your style. You also look really beautiful. Tell me something about you”

How to get a date tip #3: Handle her objections.

Once you approach a girl, one of these three things might happen:

#1 She smiles at you. She becomes friendly, and asks you questions.

#2 She listens to you but doesn’t open up to you.

#3 She acts ‘rude’ towards you and tries to walk away.

Out of all these three situations, the 3rd one is my favourite because it challenges me as a man, and gives me an opportunity display my ‘positive qualities’ and ‘personality.’

Here’s how to handle some objections a girl might throw at you:

Objection #1: “I have a boyfriend.”

You: Talk, talk, talk
Girl: Sorry, I have a boyfriend
You: That’s awesome, so what do you do for fun?

You act indifferent towards her response and keep conversing with her. If you just do this correctly, a girl or a woman will view you as someone who demands respect in an interaction.

Objection #2: She walks away while you’re talking to her.

You: Talk, talk, talk
Girl: Talks for a little while and walks away.
You: Smile, Oh, come on now. You’re too ‘classy’ to be walking away when someone is talking to you. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in any way then just walk away. Runaway girl, runaway girl (sing playfully). Anyways… what do you do for fun?”

Let me break this down to you.

First of all, you set up an expectation for her. You tell her she’s too ‘classy’ to walk away, and, of course, she wants to be perceived as someone who is classy, and so she’ll stay for a bit.

And then, you tell her to walk away, which is ‘reverse psychology.’

And finally, you act as if nothing happened by asking her a question, which engages her back in the conversation.

Objection #3: She acts ‘rude’ to you and doesn’t acknowledge your presence…

You: Talk, talk, talk
Girl: Says something rude like, “Why are you talking to me?” or she doesn’t look at you, or something to that effect.
You: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you be yourself? I don’t know where you’re coming from but where I’m from, people are ‘real.’ If you’re not going to be real, I’m just walking away (act as if you’re about to leave). I know this is not who you really are. This is just a protection shield.

If the girls act rude, you call her out on her behaviour. It demonstrates you’re a man who demands respect in an interaction. This is very powerful stuff.

How to get a date tip #4: Lead the interaction.

Once you’ve overcome her objections, and if she’s still there, you must lead the interaction.

One of the best ways to lead the interaction is, instead of asking her questions, you make a statement.

For example, instead of asking, “What do you do for a living?” you can lead the interaction by telling her a story, like:

“I do street arts and I love it. I discovered this passion while I was in the US. One fine day, I visited an art exhibition and was immediately hooked by some of the creative street arts done by artists, who were homeless before they became really famous…”

… or any other story about WHAT YOU DO.

Instead of asking her, “How was your day?” tell her a story about how your day way by saying, “You don’t kno what happened today. As I was walking down the street, I met this strange looking man digging a sinkhole in the middle of a cornfield. He wanted to give me a tour of his new construction, so he took me inside. Getting inside was really diffcult, but as soon as my eyes fell on the interior work of his new construction, I was immediately hooked. I asked him why did he wanted to build a sinkhole. He said he wanted to build it for children because they might find it cool.”

How to get a date tip #5Make her invest.

Once you’ve lead the interaction, you make her invest in the conversation, too. By giving her the opportunity to contribute in the interaction, you’ll not only get to know her better, but also make her feel relaxed and at ease.

For example, once you’ve lead — you shared her your story — ask her, “What about you? WHAT DO YOU DO for a living?”

And, when she opens her mouth…

How to get a date tip #6: Listen to her, actively.

Active listening is a skill you can develop.

When you’re actively listening to a girl or a woman, you’re basically focusing on other person and what they’re telling YOU.

As an active listener, you should repeat back, in your own words, what the other person has just said to you.

It ensures that you understood what the other person was talking about. It also demonstrates that you’re interested in her as a person. It expresses an understanding of her feelings.

Here’s how you can listen to her, actively:

  1. Ask her questions: Ask her what she means and how it makes her feel. It’ll help you understand a situation better.
  2. Rephrase and feedback: Rephrase what she told you, in your own words, and feed it back to her, which helps you understand her better and build a dialogue with her.
  3. Summarize: When you summarize what she tells you, it shows that you were paying attention to her and you want to understand her.
  4. Shut up and listen to her: Do not be eager to fill up the silence whenever there’s an awkward pause.

Do not answer right away.

Take a pause for 3 to 5 seconds before answering something.

Just learn how to listen without interrupting. It’ll improve your conversation skills, 10 times.

How to get a date tip #7: Take her on an instant date.

During the day, when you approach a girl, you’re a complete stranger. That’s why a lot of girls avoid talking to strangers because they’re just bad people.

It’s not their fault, though. Their parents, society, media, and the school system have drummed how bad a stranger is into their skull.

But the fact is… she’s a woman and you’re a man.

You could be a dangerous man, but chances are she might never know about it.

So, if you want to make her call you, or text you back and show up on a date later that week, not flake on you, you must make her feel comfortable with you first.

And then to make her go somewhere with you — show up on a date and take her back to your place — she has to ‘trust’ you, too.

And, to build that comfort and trust with her, you must take her on an instant date — a regular date, except it, happens on the moment. You do not have to wait for days before asking her out.

Here’s the good part: When you take her on an instant date, you dramatically reduce the chances of her flaking on you and significantly increase her chances of picking up a phone and responding to your calls and going out later that week with you.

Next time, when you realise you’re talking to a girl more than 10 minutes, take her on an instant date.

For now, for at least a couple of months, forget about getting her number. Instead, focus on taking her on an ‘instant date.’

For example, at a climax of the interaction — when she’s laughing and giggling with you — and you sense there’s a good vibe between the two of you, simply tell her, “Hey, you know what? I’m really thirsty. Let’s go grab a real quick drink.”

If you can take her on an instant date, the ‘how to get a date’ issue becomes a non-issue because you’ll immediately stand out from the pack, and give you an opportunity to show her that she can be safe with you.

Go out and try these daytime pickup tactics today.
Aby

P.S. If you want to stand out from the pack — by taking her on an instant date rather than asking for her phone number (a lot of guys do this) — get to know her more before you actually go out on a date with her, and decrease your chances of her ‘flaking’ on you…

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9 Amazing Dating Tips For Men (Make Her Obsessed About YOU)

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8 Dating Tips For Men That'll Make Her Obsessed About YOU

Deadly dating tips for men (make her obsessed about you)

Looking for dating tips for men?

A lot of guys have one common question: “What’s the best way to approach a girl, without getting rejected? What to say to her after I approach her? When should I make my move?” among many other questions.

If you’ve been asking yourself these questions, you need dating tips for men that actually works, not some random tips you’ve found on the internet.

When it comes to dating a girl or a woman, a lot of dynamics are involved.

  • You need to approach her, first.
  • You need to deliver your opener.
  • Then you need to get her attention so that she doesn’t immediately leave.

And then, you need to handle her objections like a pro… so that she doesn’t act rude to you and keep on interacting with you.

And, once you’ve overcome her objections, you need to engage her into the interaction by displaying your personality (a lot of guys don’t do this), leading the interaction, and being both interesting and interested.

If you don’t know how to do any one of these things, then use these dating tips for men to get better results with women, starting today:

Dating tips for men #1: Approach her, immediately

When I see a girl I’d like to meet at public places — in the streets, at the bars, cafes, or at malls — I make my move towards her, even though I am feeling nervous and afraid.

When I do this, I feel tension in my body, and confidence, which wasn’t already there before, starts to radiate through my body.

Dating tips for men #2: Grab her attention

As I move towards her, I go and grab her attention. It’s an important step, but a lot of guys don’t do it.

If you do not command her attention, then she won’t be able to process what you’re saying to her.

So go and grab her attention. How?

Here’s how:

If she’s walking all by hersefl towards you, walk straight towards her, slowly, and force her to come to a complete stop.

Or, if she’s walking away from you, run after her — from the side, of course — and ask her to stop.

If you do this correctly, she’ll have no other option but to stop.

Or, if she’s sitting down, sit down near her, smile, and make yourself comfortable, and then

Dating tips for men #3: Deliver your opener

Once you’ve managed to grab her attention, say, “Hey… (and then, take a loooooooooooooong pause)…”

Then smile slowly, lock your eyes with her, and deliver ‘this line’ on her:

“Hey, I know it’s totally random and I’m a complete stranger to you, but you know what, as I was walking by, I saw you, and I just wanted to tell you that I like your style and that you are, really, really beautiful. My name is <your name>. Tell me something about you.”

Dating tips for men #4: Be prepared for contingency

When you deliver your opener, three things can happen.

  1. She likes it and smiles back at you. She becomes friendly with you. She asks you questions.
  2. She sort of likes it. She’s not enthusiastic about it, though. She’s just being polite and sticks around a bit to see what you have to say.
  3. She gives you one of many objections or tries to walk away.

Out of all these 3 scenarios, the ‘3rd’ type of objection is what I love the most because it challenges me as a man, and allows to express my ‘personality’ and ‘positive qualities’ to a girl I’m talking to.

Here are a few ‘3rd type’ of objections you might face from a girl and (how to handle it):

Scenario #1: “I have a boyfriend.”

You: Deliver your opener
Girl: I’m sorry, but I have a boyfriend.
You: Awesome, so what do you do for fun?

Did you notice what you actually did? You didn’t even notice her objection.

One of the most powerful ways to deal with objections is to be INDIFFERENT.

Scenario #2: She walks away while you’re still talking to her

You: Talk, talk, talk
Girl: Talks for a while and walks away.
You: (Smile) Oh, come on now. You’re too ‘classy’ to be walking away when someone is talking to you. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in any way then just walk away. Runaway girl, runaway girl (sing playfully). Anyways… what do you do for fun?”

Let me ‘break down‘ this for you.

First of all, you set up an expectation for her. You tell her she’s way too “classy” to walk away, and of course, she wants to be perceived as classy so she’ll stay for a bit.

And you tell her to walk away, which is ‘reverse psychology.’

And you act like it never happened by asking her a question, which engages her back in the conversation.

Scenario #3: She’s “rude” and doesn’t acknowledge your presence.

You: Talk, talk, talk
Girl: Says something rude like, “Why are you talking to me?” or she doesn’t look at you, or something to that effect.
You: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you be yourself? I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from, people are ‘real.’ If you’re not going to be real, I’m just going to walk away (act as if you’re about to leave). I know this is not who you really are. This is just a protection shield.

You could even say…

You: I know, just look around you. There are a lot of ‘creeps’ out there trying to get something from you. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. I’m almost sure. So let’s give this a shot one more time, I’m Joe.

See how you called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that you are a man who demands respect in an interaction. This is very powerful stuff.

Dating tips for men #5: Imagine you are ‘a gift’

From now on, your job as a daytime pickup artist is to… provide a lot of “positive emotions” to every woman you meet.

You give them an unforgettable experience. You take them on an ’emotional rollercoaster’ ride with you, away from the mundane world she’s already in.

It might not make any sense to you now, but it works incredibly well for you.

When I go out and pick up girls, I feel really happy 🙂 because I know I’m making her day.

Then getting results with women — getting more phone numbers, instant dates, and even a relationship — becomes super easy because you know you have something to offer to them: a lot of positive EMOTIONS.

Let me ask you a question: What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that only if women knew you, they’d fall for YOU?

So are you conveying your ‘personality’ in an interesting way? Is she getting to know you better, or are you just talking out of your ass?

Next time you’re out on a date with a girl or a woman, take 5 minutes and IMAGINE you are someone she’s been waiting for all of her life. She’s been dreaming about YOU, read about you in books, has seen you in movies, and you’re the guy she talks about endlessly with her best friends.

Now here’s the catch: She’ll find out that it’s YOU only after she’s gotten to know you.

In order for this to happen, you’ll have to show her your ‘personality.’

So next time you’re interaction with a girl, think you’re ‘a gift’ and imagine you’re giving that “gift” to her.

By thinking and believing you’re a gift, you’ll instantly have the upper hand in the interaction (and not the other way around).

Dating tips for men #6: Be interesting… and interested

I want you to go back at some point in your life and recall an interaction where someone talked way toooooooo much. It was as if you’re watching a TV because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all, wasn’t it?

Or, can you recall an interaction with someone where the other person kept asking you question after question, without really contributing anything at all?

How do you solve this major conversational flaw?

Here’s how: Strive for balance.

As a man, you take the lead, but also get her to follow your lead. You make her invest in the interaction. You also make it easier for her to contribute to the interaction.

Dating tips for men #7: Lead the interaction… first.

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ~ Gandhi

I want you to take a pause and think back to all the conversations you’ve had in the past with women.

Were you comfortable, relaxed, and at ease during the interaction? Were you sharing ‘secrets’ and vulnerabilities with each other? Were you exchanging funny stories from your lives? Were you speaking formally or casually, like friends do? Were you able to build substance and familiarity?

Listen.

If you want her to do something, you must do it… first. If you want her to open up to you, you must open yourself up to her… first. You lead the interaction first and expect her to follow.

Next time you’re having a conversation with someone, instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying, “What do you do for a living?” tell them a “short story” about what you do. Instead of asking, “How are you?” say, “I’m feeling so happy today, you don’t even have a clue why.”

And, watch how people respond to you.

Dating tips for men #8: Avoid hesitation.

Be firm and let the other person in the interaction know WHAT you want.

Instead of muttering, “Umm, I don’t know… I was thinking… perhaps… um, we could hang out sometime…” say, “Hey, I’m going to a live concert this Friday evening. It’s going to be a blast, and you should tag along.”

Do not flinch. Do not be nervous.

Dating tips for men #9: Build familiarity.

After you’ve grabbed her attention through your presence, you want to get to know her on multiple levels to build a strong connection with her. No, you don’t have to know her entire life story, but just make sure to touch base to build both familiarity and substance with her.

You want to…

  • display your personality throughout the interaction.
  • figure out what makes her so special, and
  • what makes her tick.

You want mutual appreciation. You want her to remember you when she wakes up the next morning. You want to make a “strong impression” on her so that she won’t stop rambling about you with her best friend the moment your conversation ends.

By following any of these dating tips for men, you immediately stand out from all the other guys she’s met in the past, because you’re not answering her questions in a ‘boring way.’ You’re demonstrating a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her. And, when you lead the conversation (she knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator.)

It also gives her a ‘window of opportunity’ to see how you view the world around you and what type of person you are. It makes her feel comfortable and easier to open herself up to you.

Now, go out and make it happen.

Aby

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How To Pass Women’s Tests (With These 6 Ninja Tactics)

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If you’ve approached and talked with women, chances are you’ve most likely been “shit tested.A shit test is a test that women throw at men so that they can immediately figure out whether or not you’re worthy of their time.

The moment you open your mouth to speak to her, she wants to right away, whether you’ll step to the challenge, like a real man, or run away with your tail between your legs.

Do women test men?

Subconsciously, a woman is looking for a CONFIDENT man who understands what tests are.

So veiw shit tests as a small bump on the road. If you manage not to get bothered about it, then you’ll quickly move to the kingdom of attractive women and lots of sex.

How women test men examples

Shit tests can take the form of questions, statements, and bad behaviours.

Let’s look at each of them, separately…

1) A question

For example, you say something to her, and she might say,

  • “Do you always use the same line with all the women?”
  • “Why are you talking to me?”
  • “Can you hold this bag while I talk to my friend on the phone?”

And, sometimes, she could even ask you a question to put you down, or simply to make fun of you.

For example, she might say,

  • “Why are you wearing that weird t-shirt?”
  • “Why do you always forget to do that?”

Tests can also take the form of…

2) A statement

… which could be asking for a favour or a demand.

For example, she could ask,

  • “Go buy me a drink.”
  • “Take me for shopping.”

Or, it could also be a blow-off like,

  • “I’m waiting for someone right now.”
  • “I’m not interested.”

And, shit tests can also be in the form of…

3) A bad behaviour

For example, you’re talking to this girl and she starts to flirt with other guys. She might even kiss other guys just to see how you’ll react to all that.

So now you understand WHY it’s really CRUCIAL to pass these tests? Yeah, you need to pass these shit tests… so that you can also have as much sex as you want in life.

You see, women shit tests guys all the time just to know if they have what it takes to make it happen.

Yeah, that’s right.

That’s what women really want YOU to DOmake it happen. Even if there is not a possibility of a future relationship with her, she wants to immediately know if you have what it takes to make it happen.

Here are few tactics you can immediately apply in your interactions with women to pass almost every shit tests she throws at you like a real man and quickly establish yourself as a man who can make it hapen:

Tactic #1: “Always Be Control Of Your Emotions”

Here’s what I mean by when I say you must always be control of your emotions.

  • You must NOT take her tests personally and act like a wounded animal.
  • You must continue interacting with her as if nothing has happened.
  • You must NOT show her how she’s hurt your feelings.

You have to take it for what it is — a shit test, which is nothing but just a minor bump on the road to plenty of sex.

Here’s the mindset to adopt: “Okay, this is simply a ‘test.’ I am ready for this. Not a problem. It’s easy and I can handle this. I am completely indifferent about what she just said.”

By thinking like this, you immediately become more relaxed and “IN THE MOMENT” in your interaction. Plus, it helps you to come up with ‘witty’ things to say and make the interaction even more EXCITING and FUN.

In our free banter line report (link below), I’m going to reveal to you all kinds of ‘witty’ and bold things to say, and different techniques you can apply in ANY situation. b, they’re very easy-to-learn and apply in your daily interactions with women.

Tactic #2: “Selective Hearing Turnaround”

This is an important lesson to learn.

Basically, she can say whatever she wants to, BUT…

… you ONLY hear it (or interpret it) WHATEVER you want to hear (or happen), and then, respond to her. This proves that you’re an alpha male — one of the strongest and masculine men that she’s been dying to meet.

Here’s an example: A simple technique that demonstrates how you can turnaround whatever she says and responds it back to her.

Her: “I would NEVER go out on a date with you?”
You: “You ALWAYS want to go out on a date with me? Wow, that’s creepy.”

Easy, wasn’t it? There was NOTHING to memorize.

You use whatever she says to you, and you say it back to her. To pull this off, you’ll have to be listening to her. You’ll have to be present ‘in the moment,’ not thinking about WHAT to say next. You can’t be in your head.

You simply listen to what she says, and she’ll tell you exactly what to say to her.

A powerful technique, isn’t it?

She’ll most likely think, “Wow. This guy gets it.”

Tactic #3: “Arousal Turnaround”

You can take the previous technique a little further by taking whatever she says to you and TURNING it around into something that’s arousing you.

For example, if she says,

  • “Oh, you looked like a hungry pig… hitting all those girls.”

You interpret everything she says as what she actually wants to do — i.e. talk dirty to you, make you horny, and eventually sleep with you at her place.

By responding like this, your prove her that you really know what you want and that you’re that kind of guy.

You’re still going to see whether you actually go out with her because I always want you to have a choice.

But at least, you’ll have that choice, because you’ll have blown through that test. You’ll have decimated that test.

You’ll have overcome it to such an extent, that she’ll just do whatever you please with her.

Tactic #4: “Sexual Question Interpretation”

If she asks you a question, you interpret that question as something ‘sexual.’

For example, she might ask whatever anything, but your response could be something like, “So, you’re asking to have sex with you at your place?”

You interpret her question as her wanting to do something with you, and you accuse her of it.

Basically, you’re creating your own interpretation.

You can even respond with a statement, like:

“Look, if you really want to make out (or have sex) with me in the bathroom (at your place), why don’t you just come out and say it.”

You’re actually saying what’s really true. She wouldn’t be talking with you if she was not interested in you.

You’re proving her that you know WHAT she actually wants. So throw it out there.

So, I guess by now, you’ve understood the turnaround, which is basically just the opposite of what she says.

  • You’ve got, “Are you asking me to _________________?”
  • And, “Look, if you really want to ________________, just come out and say.”

By saying these statements, you’re pretty much implying, “Look, we’re both adults, don’t beat around the bush. Just come out and say what you really mean, and let’s get over with all these other nonsense!”

Tactic #5: “The Reprimand”

Be stern with women to pass her test, but with a smirk 😉 on your face, to let her know, subtly, that you’re willing to STAND UP for yourself.

So no matter what she says to you, you respond her by saying,

  • “Don’t you dare talk to me like that again!”
  • “I don’t like the tone of your voice. Change it immediately.”

Women LOVE being told what to do and super attracted to a man who’s brave enough to do it!

They’ll instantly comply and do whatever you want.

Tactic #6: “Own, Amplify, and Ignore”

This technique is super powerful. I call it “Own, Amplify, and Ignore.”

It’s when a girl is accusing you of some kind of bad behaviour like hitting on lots of chicks.

So the first thing you’ll do is agree with her, by saying something like…

“Yes, you’re right.”

Then you amplify it by saying, “It’s worse than that,”

… and you ignore her and move on.

Own, amplify, and ignore.

A very powerful concept to apply in your daily interactions with the ladies. If you apply it correctly, OF COURSE, you’ll make yourself irresistible to women.

Thanks for reading

Aby

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How To Talk To Women (Without Being a ‘Creep’)

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how to talk to women even if you are shy and afraid

Don’t know how to talk to women in the streets, cafes, malls, or any other public places? Then this post, titled “How to talk to women in the streets,” is for you.

These days, you do not have to go to a bar or a club to meet pickup women. You can find all sorts of women in all kinds of public places — at the cafes, malls, metro stations, bus stations, in the streets, library, museums, etc. The possibilities are endless.

But, here’s a catch: You need to learn how to talk to women during the daytime in public places, which is  slightly differently than how you’d talk to women during the night — at a bar or a club.

First of all, you need figure out whether…

She wants to be approached or not.

Before you even walk over to talk to women, you need to first look around to see if she’s approachable. For example, if you see a woman with another man or with her friends, that’s a huge sign she probably doesn’t want you to approach her.

If you see a woman with a pair of earphone plugged in her ears, then you need to understand that she doesn’t want to be approached. She is in her own little bubble and doesn’t want any stranger come up and intrude her world.

And, if she’s doing anything to look busy — reading a book or playing with her phone — she probably doesn’t want you to approach her.

But, if she seems bored and doing nothing much, then congratulations! She is most likely to be willing to talk to you… unless you do not ‘creep’ her out — especially in the first few minutes in the interaction.

How to approach a woman, properly

Now that you know she’s open to being approached to — she is not sending any obvious cues that she wants to be left alone — you need to make your move, properly, otherwise, you’ll set yourself up for a major rejection.

For example, if she is sitting down,you should walk over to her and sit down beside her, not stand up and look down on her, and talk to her. Do not sit too close or too far. Sitting close might freak her out while sitting too far might not seem like you two are having a conversation.

Or, if she’s standing, you need to walk straight up over to her, or from the side, and deliver a simple, “Hi”… with a smile to test if she is interested to talk to.

If she looks at you, and then, looks away immediately, then you need to understand that she probably doesn’t want you to keep talking to her. But, if she says “Hi” back to you, that a huge sign she’s interested.

After you’ve exchanged a simple “Hi,” it’s time to say something before the interaction gets awkward.

How to start to talk to women

You need to ALWAYS keep one important thing in mind when you’re trying to talk to a woman in the streets, cafes, malls, or any other public places: don’t be a creep.

What do I mean by ‘creep’?

Here’s what I mean: Just act normal. Talk to her as if you’re talking to one of your buddy. DO NOT pull out any fancy pick up lines and use on her.

Try to talk about her.

For example, if she’s wearing nice earrings, you can say, “I really like your earrings. Where did you get it from?”

Or, if she looks like a foreigner, ask her where she is from. And, then, share one of your travel stories with her, too.

Whatever she says back, try to pick out a word or two from that sentence and talk endlessly about it.

For example: If she says, “I’m from Italy, and I came here in Paris for a weeklong vacation.’

If you were paying attention to her, you’d realize that she just gave you 3 key conversation topics to talk about — Italy, Paris, and vacation. Now, you could talk about either one of those conversation topics untill your gum starts to hurt, or until she asks about YOU.

Or, if you’re still struggling what to say to her, then you could simply say, “Hey, you look interesting, what’s your name?”

Above all, DO NOT make it about her looks though – if you tell her she looks cute, she’ll immediately label you as a creep.

If the conversation stalls, it’s probably because she might not be interested. A few awkward pauses are fine, but if you have to carry the entire conversation with her, that means she’s only being polite talking with you.

How not to be ‘creepy’

If you’ve tried to strike up a conversation with a girl and she’s clearly not interested, do not keep trying. Let her go and do whatever she was doing, move on, and find another girl to talk to. If you keep on talking to her, it’ll only make her feel more uncomfortable, and, most importantly, it will lead either of you nowhere.

If you keep on trying, even after she said no, she won’t find you interesting. So stop it.

Just because a woman happens to be in the same public space you are in, it doesn’t mean that she owes it to you to have a conversation with you. If you manage to pick up a girl, congratulations … but do not get embarrassed — or act hurtful — when you find most women aren’t interested in you.

Thanks for reading,

Abishek

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