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How To (Easily) Start A Conversation With A Random Stranger On The Street


Hey there! How is it going?

So you want to learn ways to “approach strangers” on the street, cafes, malls, or anywhere else and effortlessly strike up an interesting conversation with them?

As a self-improvement coach, I’ve personally noticed A LOT of guys not meeting and connecting with strangers — particularly beautiful girls they’d like to know better — on social environments (streets, cafes, malls, etc.) simply because they’re afraid of making mistakes or making a BIG MESS out of it.

But these situations also provides you with an excellent opportunity to develop your social skills and improving your “social vibe.”

So, today, you’ll learn how to APPROACH and TALK a stranger in social environments like cafes, malls, streets, subways, etc. during the day.

But before that, I want you to burn this new mindset in the back of your mind: always expect to receive a POSITIVE RESPONSE from your interactions.

When you cultivate this “positive mindset”, you become a POSITIVE guy, and as a result, not only you’ll have more meaningful interaction with others, but you’ll also be able to CONNECT with them, emotionally.

Remember: to make other people feel POSITIVE feelings, you must feel it FIRST.

As you start to build this ‘mindset’ of always expecting a POSITIVE OUTCOME from all of your interactions with random strangers, then naturally YOU’LL BECOME MORE POSITIVE, and as a result, the other person you’re talking to (the cute girl you want to know better) will FEEL that POSITIVE VIBE from you too.

Here are 6 simple things you need to do to become excellent at approaching random strangers in social places and strike up a conversation with them:

1. Always have a smile on your face.

When you approach a girl walking on the streets, she doesn’t have any clue who you are. So in order to make her feel comfortable and trust you, approach her with a BIG SMILE so that she does not find you a threat to her.

Remember: make sure to smile throughout your interaction with her. Do not worry if it feels first. Over time, as you practice doing it every time you approach a stranger, it’ll become your new habit, and soon, you’ll be smiling when approaching a girl and interacting with her… without even realizing about it.

2. Always talk sloooooooowly

Most guys become tense and nervous when talking to a stranger because they fear running out of things to say or facing awkward silences.

But here’s good news: silences (non-verbal language) is also a key communication tool that helps build tension between the two of you, which sparks ATTRACTION.

Waiting for at least a couple more seconds before responding can instantly build more tension (attraction) than uttering words out of your mouth.

And make sure to talk slooooowly when you TALK as it will give you plenty of time to think WHAT TO SAY next to her, and as a result, she’ll feel relaxed and calm talking with you.

3. Always think “win-win”

When it comes to approaching and talking with a random stranger, most guys do it WRONG! If they make a mess of their approach/interaction with a girl, they often beat themselves up saying, “Oh, that plain sucked!” As a result, this negative mental chatter often attracts A LOT of negative feedbacks from girls because they can pick up his “negative vibe.”

But guys who are really good with women, you know, the “Naturals”, they NEVER walk around with a “negative” mindset, and as a result, they get BETTER RESULTS and ENJOY the “process.” If they get blown by the girl, they re-frame it as something that was just FUN or HILARIOUS.

Here’s how you do it too: change your “negative” mental chatter in your head to either “That went really well” or “That was fun!” and all of your interactions will go really well or really funny! It’s that simple.

4. Grab her attention

Before you even utter a word GET HER ATTENTION. I’ve noticed a lot of guys starting to talk to a girl even before she’s even ready to listen to them.

But, on the other hand, if you grab her attention first before talking, you’ll avoid that awkward situation where you just said something to her but she does not have a clue what you just said to her.

Here’s how you can grab a girl’s attention: approach her and say, “Hey, just a second…” or simply say “Hi” and follow up with a looooooooong pause to grab her attention.

5. Pace her “reality”

What do I mean when I say “pace her reality”?

When you approach a girl randomly, you acknowledge the fact that it was very “random” and you just wanted to say “Hi” to her.

Let’s say, you saw a beautiful girl waiting for a bus standing next to you, you can say, “Hey, I know it’s RANDOM, but I had to say HI to you. I think I like how you’re dressed and that makes you look gorgeous. What’s your name?”

When you accept this basic fact (random), you instantly establish yourself as a guy who has “social intelligence,” which makes her feel comfortable, and as a result, she’ll more likely open up to TALK to you.

Or, if she’s in a rush, you can say “I understand you’re in a rush, but I just wanted to say hi to you…” which will make her stop and talk to you for a while. Why? Because she knows you’re going to take all of her time.

6. Playfully persist

Once you’re good at all of the above skills, your next goal would be talking to a random girl for 20 to 30 seconds. I understand it’s a little bit difficult, especially if you’re a beginner at meeting girls during the day, but it’s super important that you DO IT.

Why should you talk to her for 20 to 30 seconds?

Simply because when you’re doing all of the steps above… she still thinks she’s talking to a random “stranger” on the street, which can make her feel self-conscious. But you can easily barrel through this brief moment by exuding your interest in her.

Now go out and make it happen.

Stay chill!


P.S. BTW, if you are ready to learn simple, yet powerful tips on how to approach any random girl you want on the streets, cafes, malls, or anywhere else during the day and be able to have an effective conversation with her, build enough trust you comfort and connect with her on all emotional levels…

… so that she feels compelled to give you her number (or go out on an instant date) and actually show up on date, not FLAKE on you, and willingly follows you back to your apartment for a passionate love-making session…

… then check out this ‘kick-ass resource’.

6 Essential Features Of A Good Conversation

6 Essential features of a good conversation!

A good conversation help you build rapport, emotionally connect with her, make you a 3-dimentional person, displays your attractive qualities, and leads to sexuality.

Here there, what’s up?

  • So do you want to have a conversation with someone — including beautiful girls — that is fun, playful, and flirty, and not boring and lame?
  • Do you want to display all your interesting qualities to her so that she’ll remember you over all the guys who have approached her in the past?
  • Do you wish to build a strong rapport, and connect with her emotionally, so that she’ll be talking about you obsessively with her best friends the next morning on the phone?

If you answered “yes” to any of these three questions, I’ll bet you’ll find this post useful. In this post, you’ll discover six essential features of a good conversation that no conversation expert will ever want you to know.

So let’s dive into it.

6 essential features of a good conversation:

Essential Feature #1 Of A Good Conversation: “A Good Conversation Builds Rapport”

Good conversation topics allow you and the other person — a girl you’re out on a date with — relate to each other, which helps build trust, and build a strong connection with her. Once there’s a certain level of harmonious relation between the two of you, then she’ll more likely put her guards down, and become much more excited to having a conversation with you.

Essential Feature #2 Of A Good Conversation: “A Good Conversation Connects People Emotionally”

We people walk around in our daily life as if we’re “bored” with life. The daily chores and the things to do keeps us from experiencing any kind of real emotions. And then we start to crave emotions as we our life becomes deviod of it. But if you can make small talk about topics that can make her touch base with all those long forgotten — and repressed — “positive” emotions, she’ll more likely to open up to you, than if you’d only talk to her about boring mundane stuffs — does she come there often, and what did she do last night, and which school did she go to?

Essential Feature #3 Of A Good Conversation: “A Good Conversation Make You A Three-Dimentional.”

When you approach a girl to have a chitchat, she finds it very difficulty differentiating you from all the other hundreds of clueless dudes who’d approached her in the past. For her, it would be much easier to place you in with them all and simply forget about you.

This is why it’s very important that you immediately talk about topics that’ll put you in a “positive” light, and create a unique identity for you. And it would be even more exciting if you could add a few contradictions to your identity. (For example, you love poetry … but you’re also a boxer.) This will not only make you an unpredictable, but she’ll also start to fantasize of having fun with you in different types of life’s scenarios.

Essential Feature #4 Of A Good Conversation: “A Good Conversation Hooks The Other Person To Keep A Conversation Flowing.”

Your job as a conversationalist is to get to the point where she can effortlessly let her guards down, open up to you, express her deep emotions — feelings –, and become heavily invested in the conversation with you. And the best way to do this is to offer her enough hooks — good conversation topics — acting as a “bait” so that she can immediately latch onto it and respond to you in a way that she has never done with any other folks.

Essential Feature #5 Of A Good Conversation: “A Good Conversation Displays Your Attractive Qualities”

Certain masculine characteritics are very attractive to women, like social proof, passionate, adventurous, worldly, leader of men, and pre-selected by other women. The more of these attractive traits a conversation help you talk about, the better your interaction will be, which in turn will help you land a second date, or even take things to a “next level.”

Essential Feature #6 Of A Good Conversation: “A Good Conversation Leads To Sexuality.”

Building sexual tension is very important if you want to spark a sexual attraction in a girl, and your conversation topics must allow you to do this exactly, which means that that a good conversation must be visceral; it should build an undercurrent of sexuality; it should lead to touching.

Keeping these six features of a good conversation in mind can help you never run of good topics to say to a girl, keep the conversation flowing, and make small talk much more fun, playful, and exciting.

Stay Chill

Abishek Rana

P.S. And by the way, if you haven’t already, here’s a link to The Small Talk Manifesto report. (Download a free copy now and learn how to master the art of making small talk more fun, playful, and flirtatious, within 10 minutes!)

How To Talk To Girls If You Are Shy (And Immediately Become MORE Attractive)!


A good communicator is also a good listener!

Wanna learn how to talk to girls if you are shy? Follow these 5 tips to improve your communication skills and gain mutant-ninja confidence in almost any social situations.

If there is one fact that I’ve learned as a confidence coach, it is this: not everyone is outgoing, confident, and social guy, but you still have chances with the women even if you’re shy and timid. You only need to change few aspect of how you’ve been having conversation with girls in the past, and you can to become an alpha male, almost overnight.

So if you were clueless on how to talk to girls if you are shy, then here are few practical advices on how to get your groove back, and get better results with people — including women:

Tip #1 How To Talk To Girls If Your Are Shy: “Do NOT use pickup lines.”

Relying on pickup lines to “break the ice” to start conversation with girls is fine, but you can also risk coming off across as a faker. But by skipping them altogether can in fact work for you, because you give her a chance to see how genuine you are as a person and how you are not afraid of saying what on your mind.

Now I am not against using pickup lines on women; it can actually help you get into the momentum of talking to girls — especially if you’re just starting out in the game, but here’s my honest suggestion as a daytime pickup coach: avoid using pickup lines as much as you can. Aim for being “honest” and say exactly what’s on your mind instead.

For example, if you like her smile, you should be able to tell her, “I really like your smile. It just brighten my day,” rather than using any sleazy pick up lines like “Hey, I can’t believe angels flying so low on the earth,” that you find on the internet.

Tip #2 How To Talk To Girls If Your Are Shy: “Own Your Shyness”

Owning your shyness — accepting it as part of who you are as a person — and not hiding it could actually help you come across as someone who is comfortable being on his own skin.

So even if you’re painfully shy, instead of hiding this fact and instead trying to appear “cool”, admit to the girl you’re on a date or out with that you’re a little bit shy, which can help you become even more attractive in women’s eyes. And women will reward your honest behaviour by hanging out with you more.

For example, you can easily admit you are a little bit hesitant and shy by saying something like, “Hey, I just wanted to be honest with you. I am Learning how to be more social, outgoing, and confident. So could you please forgive if I make a blunder, or help me correct my behaviour if I go over the line?”

And if your shyness is killing your chances of meeting and interacting with girls, ask your friends to make introductions with the girls for you, or if you often become nervous and tensed — especially in the presence of attractive women — try getting to a point where you can laugh about it, and they’ll too.

And soon, you’ll find a new world of women who are actually attracted by your shy and timid nature, and NOT get turned off by it.

Tip #3 How To Talk To Girls If Your Are Shy: “Remember this: People Are More Worried About Themselves Than They’re About YOU.”

It’s better to assume that women are less concerned about you and more concerned about themselves when you’re out with them on a date or a coffee. Now I am not saying that women do not care about what you have to say to them, but make sure that you’re having a small talk that is fun, playful, and exciting for the both of you, instead of making her feel bored by your monologue.

So if you’ve ever exited from an interaction and wished you could turn back in time and fix something about it, understand that you’re not the first person on the planet to have that thought.

Tip #4 How To Talk To Girls If Your Are Shy: “Stop Judging Yourself In Group Conversations”

Group conversations may feel like a total nightmare for a lot of shy and introverted guys, because it’s really hard for them to be heard. But here’s the fact that no one had told you before: group conversations are like nightmare for almost everyone — including extroverted outgoing hunk.

With added members come added distractions, and in these tough times, even the most outgoing person might need to repeat their sentence over a dozen times before anyone will start paying any attention to them.

So accept this reality of group conversation being “hot messes” by nature.

Tip #5 How To Talk To Girls If Your Are Shy: “Be A Good Listener”

A good communicator is also a good listener!

There are two ways you can demonstrate the other person you were listening to them: a) how you respond to others and b) through your body language. Both are equally important.

To respond the other person better, try to be “in the moment” — be present — and try to get-out-of-your-own-head, and listen to what the other person is really saying before responding back.

And in case you didn’t hear them properly, or you’re not sure what to say back, always repeat back some portion of what they just told you and ask for a follow up of information.

You can also demonstrate that you’re listening to the other person through your body language. Make strong eye contact, without staring at them; ignore small distractions when interacting with the other person, and leaving your phone in your pocket. Don’t look down, and do not fidget.

Stay chill’


P.S. BTW, if you want to overcome your shyness and build enough confidence to be able to effortlessly meet, connect, and date more beautiful women on the streets, cafes, or malls, then here’s a kick-ass resource for you.

6 Powerful Ways To Improve Your Communication Skills, Instantly!

improve communication skills

I just wrote an article on effective communication skills.

If you want to build confidence, and drive hordes of attractive women into your life, learning how to communicate effectively is essential. I grabbed some of these powerful ways to improve your communication skills, as fast as possible, from my book, “Daytime Pickup: “The Natural Progression”

Now, of course, there are plenty of resources on the web to improve your communication skills, which you can read, absorb, and use into your daily interactions with the ladies so that you can also become more confident, outgoing, social, and an attractive man.

Here’s good news: Not only is it possible to learn effective communication skills, but learning this number 1 skill is way easier than you have imagined.

Just imagine for a second how your life would be if only you could effortlessly eliminate all your shyness, hesitation, and self-doubt, and actually build genuine confidence to attract almost everything — money, fame, and women — into your life.

Have you ever observed someone who seem to be really good at socializing with others?

Learning effective communication skills will not only give you all the ammunition you need to know “what to say” in any social settings, but it will also help you instantly become an attractive man that others want to hang out with.

So by now I assume you already know the importance of building effective communication skills so that you can meet more interesting people — including attractive women — handle awkward silences diligently, accept rejection gracefully, and win the appreciation/approval of all those you encounter.

With effective communication skills, you’ll able to…

  • read social signals — body language and non-verbal messages — of others…
  • solve problems effectively, and…
  • develop the ability to resolve any critical situations, effortlessly.

As you begin to learn how to have a conversation with a girl/woman, you’ll slowly start to build your self-esteem, and your self-confidence will soar high to a new level, making you even more successful and attractive male that you desire to be.

Before I go on and reveal you 6 effective communication strategies, here are few more free articles on the topic of developing effective communication skills.

Related article:

  1. THESE 6 “Good Conversation Starters” Spikes Attraction, Almost Instantly!
  2. How To Make Conversation With A Girl (And Immediately Build Solid Connection)
  3. How To Start A Conversation With A Girl (3 Simple Tricks)!
  4. How To Talk To Women (Without Being a ‘Creep’)
  5. How to Avoid Awkward Silences with Women (2 Simple Tricks Unleashed)

Alright, cool!

Now, here are 6 effective communication steps you can immediately learn, absorb, and  use in your interaction with a girl/woman and get better results — more phone numbers, dates, and even relationships:

Step #1 Towards Building Effective Communication Skills: “Be Aware Of Your Interaction With Women.”

The first step towards improving your communication skills is to be aware of your own interaction with others.

Learning how to identify different social situations that make you feel uncomfortable, and tweaking your approach accordingly to achieve better — positive — results from interactions is a crucial step towards learning how to improve communication skills.

So next time you’re having a conversation with a girl, pay attention to her behaviours that make you respond in a negative way, and take ‘proper’ action to change your responses to make the situation a more positive experience for both of you.

Step #2 Towards Building Effective Communication Skills: “Take Responsibility Of Your Behavior & Apologize For Insensitive Responses”

You must be willing to take full responsibility for your behaviour and never sigh away from asking for an apology for any insensitive actions or errors in judgement in your part.

The best way to improve your communication skills is to ask others for their honest feedback regarding your interactions with others. If the feedback is ‘negative,’ accept it — do not take it personally — and immediately make necessary changes in your interactions with others.

Step #3 Towards Building Effective Communication Skills: “Your Non-Verbal Communication Is As Important As Your Verbal Communication Skills”

Your ‘non-verbal communication’ — aka your body language — is also as important as your verbal communication. Having a positive body language is really important in your interactions with the ladies.

And if your words (“what you say”) does not match up with your actions (“what you do”) you’ll keep on struggling in social interactions with girls or women or others.

Step #4 Towards Building Effective Communication Skills: “Become A ‘Pro-active Listener'”

If you truly want to improve your communication skills, start becoming an active listener too. There’s a truth in the age-old saying, “A good communicator is a good listener?”

You must be both interesting and interested.

Fight the urge to say something immediately after she is finished talking. Rather, summarize what you’ve heard to her, and ask her if that’s what she meant, and you’ll notice her literally flying in front of you.

Listen — and try to understand — everything she is trying to communicate with you.

Don’t offer advices or criticisms without really understanding her intentions, which will only lead you towards more frustrations.

Step #5 Towards Building Effective Communication Skills: “Improving Your Communication Skills Is An ‘On-Going Process’…”

Improving your communication skills is an ‘on-going process,’ and hence, do not expect to master it overnight. If you try to change or improve a lot of things at once, it will only work against you — you’ll only become overwhelmed and discouraged.

Rather, select one or two personality traits that you want to work on first, and then master it over a period of time before trying to solve the next one.

Step #6 Towards Building Effective Communication Skills: “Take Full Advantage Of Your Positive Personality Traits”

Identify your key — positive — personality traits and use them in your interactions with women to get maximum results — more phone numbers, dates, instant dates, etc.

Both effective communication and active listening skills are essential communication tools that can be used in your interactions with others to improve your communication skills.

So if you’re new to improving your communication skills, focus on few major areas: active listening skills, understand body language, solve problems/conflicts, and accept responsibility for your negative responses.

Always remember: Self-awareness, determination, and consistentcy can make you a social, outgoing, and confident guy, overtime.

With effective communiation skills, you can have everything you want in life — money, fame, love — but the first step towards that journey starts now.

No one is born with the ability to strike up a conversation with others.

“Effective communication IS A Learned skill!”

You only need get hold of ‘a proven method’ to improve your communication skills and stick to it until you master it, and soon, you’ll be amazed by all the positive results from all your interactions — more phone numbers, dates, and even relationships — with beautiful attractive women.

Even though some people fear otherwise, effective communication skills can be learned and developed by anyone of at least of average intelligence. You can kiss “goodbye” to all the difficulties you’ve been having in the past and start to make rapid progress with the ladies, starting now.

The only thing that matters is having access to ‘a proven method’ you can use for the rest of your life.

Thanks for reading 🙂


P.S. To truly learn how to improve your communication skills in such a way that drives hordes of women into your life and your heart, click here.

THESE 6 “Good Conversation Starters” Spikes Attraction, Almost Instantly!

good conversation starters

If you’re looking for good conversation starters for making small talk on the streets, cafes, bars, or anywhere else under the sun, then you’re going to love this article.

For the past 7+ years, I have been coaching guys on how to improve their conversation skills so that are able to interact with women in an attractive way, not boring and friendly way goes nowhere, and I realize that many students have one pressing question on the back of their head…

What are good conversation starters that’ll help me avoid awkward silences, running out of things to say syndrome, and help me turn a boring and friendly conversation into more exciting, playful, and fun?

I’m not surprised if you have the same question burning in the back of your mind.

If you have spent any amount of your precious time improving your love life, and dating women, chances are that at some point you’ve experienced the dreaded situation of running out of things to say, awkward silences, and constantly struggling to find good conversation topics that are not flat out overly friendly (aka boring), or getting in small talk.

I call this the “What Do I Say To Her” Syndrome.

And it crops from the fact that most guys don’t have a clue about interesting conversation topics that generate instant attraction in girls or women.

Now, of course, by now you probably know — and understand — that “interview type” conversation never leads to attraction.

… And I can imagine that you’re probably wrecking your head wondering “What the heck do I say to her to fill that dreaded awkward silences in between the interaction – and what conversation topics will actually make her feel attracted towards me?”

Here’s how…

THESE Good Conversation Starters Will Immediately “Spike” Her Attraction Towards YOU!

Now, before I actually reveal to you good conversation starters, I want to touch on the topic of WHY it is so crucial to come up with right conversation topics when interacting with women…

Earlier, I had mentioned to you the “interview type” conversation topics. Most guys end up doing “interview type” conversation — asking too many questions –with a girl because they don’t have a clue “what to say to her next…” so they end up asking boring questions such as the woman’s family, friends, or job.

“How many siblings do you have?”
“Where did you go to college?”
“What made you decide to become a graphic designer?”


These questions are all “generic,” and they won’t help you stand out from the hundreds of other guys who have probably already asked her the same questions… nor they generate any kind of emotions (feelings) of attraction.

And, because you don’t know exactly what topics make up for good conversation starters, the girl you’re on a date with will continue to lead the interaction to nowhere.

Having an arsenal of good conversation topics that you can ask at any time allows you to always remain in control of the interaction.

Remember this: If you don’t take charge of the conversation, the girl will- and you’ll immediately realize getting stuck talking about yoga and meditation for the rest of the night.

If you don’t have the right tools and tactics to keep a conversation flowing towards your GOALS, naturally… she’ll eventually steer the conversation towards something “boring” and “safe.” (and you’ll most likely find her giving a handjob to one of your mates an hour or later)

But “the reason why” you need to have a bag full of “sexy” conversation topics you can flip out at any given time is that it will give you a surge of “conversational confidence” that’ll help you power through a lot of women.

There are two BIG reasons that prevent most guys from approaching a woman they like:

a) fear of running out of things to say and…

b) fear of having awkward silences… But if you can come up with a steady flow of good conversation started, you’ll much more likely be “quick-witted” and eventually, this fear of approach will disappear… and you’ll find yourself naturally talking to a lot of women, whenever you want and wherever you are.

6 Traits Of Good Conversation Topics!

When you walk up over to a girl on the street, she doesn’t want to hear about your job resume. She doesn’t want to hear how long you’ve lived in your current city. And if she hears again “So you come here often?” she’ll probably go mad at you and leave.

What are the kind of conversation topics that a girl or a woman wants to talk about? And, most importantly, what conversation topics will lead your interaction to the desired outcome — attraction?

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These are key 6 traits contained in every best conversation starters:

The 1st trait of good conversation starters: “Builds trust and fosters connection.”

If you want to connect with a girl or a woman you’re on a date with, you must, first of all, try to find something common about each other. You must come up with a good conversation topic that’ll allow her to relate with you somehow. This will allow you to build trust with her so that she feels a connection with you.

It’s only after you have built trust with her, and she feels that connection with you, will she let her guard down and be more open to continuing the conversation with you, later.

The 2nd trait of good conversation starters: “Promotes an emotional state.”

Most guys talk about boring topics, and it seems that their everyday life is void of any real emotions. But we are emotional creatures, and hence, we crave emotions. This is perhaps one of the reasons why the entertainment business is a multi-billion dollar industry. All those TV serials and soap operas you watch with your parents in the living room are rich in emotions, and they satisfy our need for an emotional state.

So if you can come up with conversation starters that spark all these repressed or numbed “positive” emotions, the woman you’re interacting with will be just like a putty in your hands.

The 3rd trait of good conversation starters: “Makes you seem like a three-dimensional person.”

When you approach a girl on the streets, bar, or anywhere else, she has a difficult time differentiating you from all the other hungry horny guys who have approached her during the course of her life.

Your job is to make it easy for her by churning up interesting conversation topics that’ll immediately create “a unique identity” for you. Even better, add some contradictions to your identity (personality). You’ll come across as unpredictable, and she’ll start to imagine herself having fun and exciting adventures with you in different types of situations.

The 4th trait of good conversation starters: “Hooks her interest and keeps the conversation flowing.”

Your major responsibility as a conversationalist is to get her to open up to you, express her wants and desires, and become heavily invested in the interaction. (A lot of guys don’t do this; they go for the number immediately after 3 minutes into the interaction). Good conversation starters act as “bait” to hook her interest so that she becomes more emotionally involved in what you’re talking about.

The 5th trait of good conversation starters: “Displays your unique (attractive) qualities.”

There are specific character traits that girls or women are attracted to, universally, including social proof, fun, adventurous, passionate, worldly, leader of the pack, and pre-selected by other women. The more of these attractive characteristics the conversation starters allows you to display to her, the better.

The 6th trait of good conversation starters: “Leads to sexual encounters.”

If your goal is to get a one night stand or have a sexual relationship with a girl or a woman then you need to build sexual desire and tension. And some conversation topics help you promote these to you.

Good conversation topics are visceral, and it naturally leads the interaction towards touching and producing a current of male and female sexuality.

Types of Conversation Starters

Usually, there are about a dozen good conversation topics you can segue into an interaction to create powerful rapport, build a strong emotional connection, and display all your attractive qualities that women are hard-wired to respond to sexually.

Here are 12 different types of conversation starters:

  • Arts, music, and literature
  • Food
  • Travel
  • Early childhood memories
  • Both of your passions
  • Observation about her
  • People watching obersation
  • Future ambitions
  • Pop culture
  • Gossip
  • Life’s adversity, struggles, and tests you’ve overcome
  • Life’s lessons you’ve learned
  • Unusual experiences you’ve experienced

If you can manage to stick to any one of these conversation topics, it’ll help you build (or display) the 6 attractive characteristic traits that I listed above that a good conversation topic must always possess.

Thanks for reading


P.S. I recently published a book where I walk you through my favourite conversation starters — and give you the exact progression to introduce these conversation topics into your interactions with women on the streets or on dates so that you’ll get better results — get more phone numbers, dates, and eventually, take her back to your apartment).

This book will also unleash:

  • Interesting conversation topics that’ll get her open up to you — and begging – to keep the conversation flowing, as her desire and attraction for you keeps on building up, without her knowing.
  • The exact sequence to segue these conversation topics into your interaction for maximum effect.
  • One conversation starter is such a refreshing change of pace from her current reality that she’ll most likely be raving about you with all her friends for months to come.

I personally believe that after reading this book on effective communication skills, you’ll most likely agree on how significant choosing the right conversation topics can be.

Remember: If you get stuck in the “boring” or “safe” conversation topics on a date, she can quickly lose any attraction towards you and abruptly end the conversation and put you in the dreaded friendzone.

3 Simple Ways To Touch A Girl You Like (And Turn Things “Sexual,” Instantly)!

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How To Touch A Girl You Like And Get Her Hot And Steamy

I still remember the day when I first understood that it was “normal” to touch girls that you’ve just met on the streets, cafes, and bars. I was at a shopping mall, hanging out alone, when I saw this young redhead, all by herself, doing window shopping.

I approached her and started talking to her.

After just a couple of minutes into the interaction, the little voice inside my head started saying cool stuff to me.

Instead of encouraging me to NOT to touch her, the little voice was goading me on, “Go Abishek, go!”

So that’s what I did…

I hurled my 20-year-old arm around her shoulder and gave her a little squeeze, and said, “You’re cool.” And the rest is history…

So if you’re clueless on how to touch a girl you like and turn things “sexual,” in this article, you’ll find 3 simple (and easy) ways to touch a girl, starting today, which will help establish yourself as a man immediately in her eyes so that you take things on a sexual level, really fast with her:

Here are 3 easy ways to touch a girl you like:

#1 ways to touch a girl: “Touch her hand”

Back in my high school days, I often skipped the hand touch, because when you’re in a college party environment, you really don’t need to go step by step to touch a girl.

But if you’re older — in your 20s or 30s — and you’re in your first date type of situation, then touching her hand is the best way to let her know that you’re sexually interested in her without coming across try hard or a creep.

There are two ways to touch a girl you like. You can either simply grab her hand and start holding it, or, if you want to become more sensual with it, you can put your hand right over hers and interlock your fingers.

And if the girl you’re interacting has tiny hands, tell her that she has a small hand, by saying something like, “Wow, you’ve got really tiny little cute hands!” and then hold it in your hands, and compare them against yours. (Side note: If she has big hands, also known as ‘man hands’ you can skip this tactic!)

Another way to touch a girl is to ask if she’d like to play a thumbs war game, hand slap game, or tell her you to want to give her a hand massage.

#2 ways to touch a girl: “Touch her hair”

This kino escalation tactic is really amazing.

You may probably have heard about a theory that if a girl lets you touch her hair, she’ll let you kiss her too.

Well I have not tested this “theory” to conclude that it’s 100% accurate, but one thing is for certain: Every girl I’ve met in the bars, cafes, metro stations, or malls, who let me touch their hair HAS let me kiss her too, and not a single one of them told me to stay away from their hair.

The only times that women didn’t give me their cheeks were the times that I totally skipped this vital step.

Usually, when I pull to do this kino escalation, I also throw in a cheesy line like, “Wow, is that your real hair or it’s just a wig? Let me check,” or “Damn, I could pet your hair all day, it’s so shiny and soft…” as I start to touch her hair.

While lines such as these may sound corny, but they work like a charm.

#3 ways to touch a girl: “Touch her waist”

This kino escalation move is so potent, I only use it on girls who have given me clear signs that they’re interested, like looking me straight in my eyes while standing close and talking to me for a couple of minutes.

And it is easy to pull off too. You only have to lay your hands — palm and fingers — on her side, slightly above her pelvic bone so that your fingers sort of turn around her behind so that you can pull her just a bit. If you touch her waist this way, it’ll give her a clear signal that you’re not afraid to step up to the challenge and handle your business like a man.

Few things to keep in mind: You must be talking to her in a low voice as you pull off this tactic. In order to do that, you must be standing really close to her so that you can whisper softly into her ear.

But if you’re in a loud club/bar, pull her right in and talk straight into her ear.

Also, make sure to grab her waist with both your hands… she’ll eventually realize that things are about to get fun…

Thanks for reading,


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Why Do Women Like Bad Boys? (6 Insane Reasons WHY)

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Why do women like bad boys?

Bad boys are the type of guys a lot of women consider cocky, swaggering, macho, and jerks; the kind of guys who treat women like they can easily be replaced, while women wait in queue eager to get into his bed. Men of all races and background hate these guys, yet women obsess about them, day and night.

Go ask any girl sitting and sipping her drink on the street what she wants from a man, and she might tell you, in vivid detail, that she wants a “nice guy” who is tall, handsome, with a good sense of humour, and who’ll treat her like a lady.

But later in the evening, she’ll contradict herself by falling head over heels trying to “woo” a bad boy — short, ugly, poor, and with no sense of humor — who only uses and abuses her.

Now you must be wondering, It doesn’t make any sense. What’s happening here? Why do girls love bad boys?

Let’s look in close at some of the bad boy personality so that you can also learn how to become bad boy that attracts hordes of women for dates, sex, and adventures:

Your typical “bad boy” always puts himself first; he is cocky and arrogant. He doesn’t care about a woman’s needs, because he’s the sort of a guy who likes to do what he wants to do, regardless of what anyone else thinks or says of him. He acts like a loose cannon and spread his sexuality wherever he goes.

In no way, he’s a “nice guy” that most girls settle — marry — with, and he treats women badly — he, often, uses women for sex and leaves her for another.

Although these are all his negative characteristics, yet women go completely crazy about these “creeps.” Why? Well, now, of course, no woman likes to be so openly used and be abused, so there must be some other “secrets” that are working on his behalf.

To find the answer, we have to look at the positive personalities of a bad boy:

WHY Do Women Like Bad Boys?

A “bad boy” is extremely masculine, confident, and independent, by nature. To most women, all these key bad boy personalities — especially the third, confidence — are an aphrodisiac. The only problem here is his confidence sort of takes a form of a selfish arrogance.

But women respond to these bad boys types on a purely “emotional level.”

Just like men are turned ON by a woman’s feminine qualities, so do to women respond to men’s masculinity — and the bad boy personality seems to have it in buckets. So what’s really happening deep down here is that she’s having a gut reaction to his masculine energy and confidence, and is totally blind to everything else.

So if you can learn how to take the “negative traits” of a bad boy and flip them in a more positive direction to make them work for you, you can too learn how to be a bad boy, without actually being mean, selfish, arrogant, and abusive.

This way, you can still show your “gentleman side” — kind, enthusiastic, and warm — to her without being an abusive jerk.

Related article: 5 Masculine Traits That ATTRACT Women, Instantly

6 Reasons Why Do Girls Love Bad Boys (The Wolverine Powers Jerks Have Over Girls)

Here are a few changes you can do to immediately bring out that bad boy characters:

Reason #1. How to become bad boy: “Be Fearlessly Independent”

In other words, act as if you don’t need a woman, or her approval, to be happy. Act as if you can easily get any woman you desire, and she can easily be replaced, because you’re already living your life to the fullest — following your passions and dreams and interests.

You also never change WHO YOU ARE as a person just to please her, hoping she might feel for you on you and go back to your apartment.

Rather, get sucked in your interests — your hobbies, passions, and dreams — and make plenty of time for male stuffs — hitting the gym, joining a new and challenging sport, hanging out with other alphas, and starting your own business, among other things that empowers you and make you a happy person, without her in your life.

Over time, you’ll create a killer attitude, “This is what/who I am and if you like it, cool. If not, then please leave.”

Just do it. She’ll always respect you for it.

Reason #2. How to become bad boy: “Be Emotionless/Indifferent”

Be emotionless and do NOT show to her that you “care.” Have a “poker face” at all the time when you’re around her. Remain mysterious and not let her know what’s going on in your mind. Keep them guessing.

Also, talk very little about you. And, when you finally do, make sure you have a purpose behind what you have to say. Don’t volunteer information. You only give her when she asks.

Reason #3. How to become bad boy: “Don’t Take Any Bullshit”

Refuse to take any “bullshit” from anyone, including the ladies. If she tries to test you, don’t cave in — instead, tell her to GROW UP. Do not be afraid to say “no.” Stand your ground, and if needed, be willing to walk away.

Stop pedestalising her. You make relationship rules, not hers. If you don’t agree what she says or does, just be blatant about it — don’t be that “nice guy” (aka Mr Nice Guy) in hopes of getting into her pants. And if she says she doesn’t like it, simply let her go.

Reason #4. How to become bad boy: “Light YOUR Fire”

Bad boys embrace their sexuality, and they’re confident lovers. So don’t be afraid to let your natural masculine sexuality come out and shine.

Well, this, of course, doesn’t mean that you should go around checking out her boobies all day, but you should be totally comfortable and confident looking into her eyes and let her know that you’re sexually attracted towards her, not hiding it, without becoming a pawing asshole.

And when you finally step up the challenge, make sure you know what you’re doing in the bedroom.

Reason #5. How to become bad boy: “Make Yourself Rare (Irreplaceable)”

For women, men who are readily available are quite “boring.” Bad boys are fiercely independent — they aren’t hanging around a woman or a girl desperately, hoping to get attention from her.

Remember: Women always want what they can’t have, so be that guy — busy and scarce. By unpredictable. Be a mystery. Be a challenge — let her do all the legwork to get you. You are the “prize,” not her.

Reason #6. How to become bad boy: “Turn ON The Confidence Switch!”

Bad boys always know — or at least, assume — that every woman wants to be with them.

They do not have any “insecurities” when it comes to attracting women they desire. They think they’re “a great catch,” who needs to be “wooed” and “pleased,” instead of the other way round, like a lot of “nice guys” — “beta” males — do.

Related article: How To Be A Bad Boy And Get MORE Hookups (3 Key Bad Boy Traits Revealed)

2 Deadly “Nice Guy” Traits To Avoid, Starting From Today!

1. Don’t be “too nice” with girls.

Do not agree with women all the time. Do not entertain her, or serve her. Do not pay just to get her attention. Bad boys don’t even think about doing all these things. Doing these things will only make you look like someone who is “weak” and “wussy.”

2. Be decisive and don’t hesitate when talking.

Make a decision to approach her and talk to her. And once you’ve made that decision, do not second guess yourself. Voice your opinions on things that you believe in and do not worry about what other people think.

Yeah, all of the people in the world might call these bad boys “jerks,” while it might be somewhat true, but these guys can still teach the average guy about attracting women.

Simply by observing some of these bad boy characteristics in action, you can too learn how to be a bad boy without sacrificing your nice qualities

Even you might not look like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise, you can still attract hordes of women and around your arms simply by oozing male sexuality, confidence, and independence.

Thanks for reading,

Abishek 🙂

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How To Kiss A Girl Well (In 3 Simple Steps)

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In most of my articles, I hardly go into depth about how to kiss a girl. Sexual escalation — like kissing a girl — is the result of sexual tension. Kissing is a “release” behaviour — something that releases “tension” created when interacting with a woman in a powerful masculine way.

I know that most guys out here want a thorough explanation of how to kiss a girl. (I noticed my inbox was flooded with the subject line “How to Kiss A Girl?”). That’s why I wrote this article on how to kiss a girl.

How to Kiss A Girl: It’s all about “pre-game.”

Most guys want to know how to kiss a girl and think that I’m going to hand them an answer that they can immediately apply in their interactions before pulling the trigger — kissing the girl — and become really successful at it.

But the fact is… kissing is all about 95% preparation and 5% taking action.

In simple words, the determining factor of whether or not a girl finds your kiss “hot” is established in the moments leading up to the kiss. The shortest timeline for this preparation and execution phase would be around 2 to 5 minutes.

However, if you’re on a date with a girl, the moments leading up to a kiss can take as long as 45 minutes to a couple of hours.

Quick word to all those guys who enjoys making out with girls: While you may feel cool to get instant kisses from girls you just randomly met on the streets, cafes, or malls (and I’m certainly not saying I am not part of this), kissing a girl too soon or rushing the build-up to a kiss is certainly not a very good idea for building a strong connection with a woman.

While instant kisses are awesome, I personally enjoy the build-up to a kiss better.

And many women agree on this too. No woman wants to feel like she’s a tongue receptacle for some aggressive horn-ball; rather, she wants a guy who understands how to create, maintain, and amplify sexual tension.

This post will focus on the essential aspects of the “pre-game.” Let’s begin with the most crucial aspect of the kiss…

Step #1 How to Kiss A Girl: Isolate Her

I know it’s an obvious fact that you need to “isolate” a girl to kiss her, but it’s still important to mention here. A memorable kiss is a moment shared between the two of you when there’s no one else around. Unless you’re “kissing your bride” at your wedding, you should really be conscious of the environment you and a girl are in.

Let me illustrate this point with an example: Last week, I was at a local bar chatting with this 26-year-old hot blonde who I felt a great connection with. We met because my friend was talking with her friend, and we naturally gravitated towards each other. Now, even though I wanted to kiss her (and the feeling was mutual – later she told me), I controlled myself for a very important reason: no discretion.

I didn’t want any girl to think that I’m some horny-ball who’ll jump at any opportunity to escalate sexually (and I’m sure most of you agree on this). While sexual escalation is very important, being able to display that you’re a sexually satisfied guy who is in control of his emotions is MORE important than actually having the guts to go for a kiss.

So, if you’re planning to kiss a girl, the first step is to wait until you’re in a location that is somewhat isolated and discrete. Now I am not saying that you guys need to be a one-on-one, inside closed doors before going for the kiss. But, make sure to respect her comfort levels and reputation. Most girls don’t like engaging in a public display of affection (PDA), so don’t blow your first great kiss before it even happens.

Make sure it’s a personal moment between the two of you and you have some privacy, before even going in for a kiss. This could be as simple as moving her 20 feet away from her friends, or as detailed as planning an instant date around taking her to a special “spot” where you know you’ll have some one-on-one time.

Step #2 How to Kiss A Girl: Build Tension

A great kiss doesn’t just happen. Instead, it’s a natural result of the moments that lead up to the kiss. Once you and a girl are in some “isolated” place, it’s crucial that you don’t just jump on her and expect a kiss. You still need to build sexual tension.

Now if you are not aware of what sexual tension is, then I highly suggest that you browse my blog (or read my book, “”). Creating sexual tension is essential for a great kiss.

The fastest and easiest way to build sexual tension is by being very bold and direct with a compliment. For example, you could say, “Wow, I wish you hadn’t worn this dress out tonite because it looks amazing on you, and now I can hardly think straight” is a great example. Why?

Here’s why: First of all, the compliment is funny but also very bold. You’re giving her a compliment, but you’re also “blaming” her on looking too good, which is more powerful than simply saying, “You look beautiful tonight.”

Using a very bold compliment like that will amplify the moment, and sets the stage for the kiss.

Step #3 How to Kiss A Girl: Be Shameless

Once you feel that “spark” called sexual tension, it’s time for you to pull the trigger and go in for the kiss. While this advice may sound so simple, it’s very difficult for most guys to follow. This is because most guys want to look for “signal” or “signs” that a girl wants to be kissed. Or worse, some guys even wait for a girl to kiss them (never happens!).

If you want to be a good kisser, you need to take charge of the situation. Don’t ask her if she wants to be kissed. Don’t drive yourself mad looking for the “signs” or “signals.” Don’t hesitate — a big mistake. Instead, just lean in and kiss her.

In short, execute shamelessly.

Now, of course, a girl will reject your first attempt at kiss — which is totally fine. Most likely, it has nothing to do with you. So do not feel rejected! Just respect her boundary, and go back into being normal. Here’s a rule to remember: If you go for a kiss, but the girl doesn’t kiss you back, BUT she is still talking to you… she wants to kiss you but only needs more time.

In fact, if you really want a “signal” to know 100% whether or not a woman is interested in kissing you, simply go for the kiss and see what happens. If she’s still standing there, you passed! She wants to be kissed (even if she didn’t let you kiss her right there and then.)

So there you have it: how to kiss a woman in 3 simple steps. Don’t over analyze. Don’t over complicate it. Have confidence in yourself and kiss her.

How To Start A Conversation With A Girl (3 Simple Tricks)!

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You don’t have a clue as to how to start a conversation with a girl?

Starting a conversation with a girl is the BIGGEST hurdle a lot of guys have difficulty overcoming. Many guys are unable to think of “what to say” when approaching a girl all by herself in public places — streets, cafes, malls, metro stations, etc.

All of these questions might pop up in your head if you had to start a conversation with a girl:

  • Do I use some cheesy sleazy pickup line?
  • Should I ask for her opinion?
  • Should I be indirect or direct?

You can use any of these three methods to start a conversation with a girl, but the harsh truth is that you still need to take action, first. A girl or a woman is not going to do that — approach and talk — for you. So if you want to talk to a girl, you’ll have to approach her.

So how to start a conversation with a girl?

There are several best way to start a conversation with a girl or a woman, but in this post, you’ll find 3 simple ways to start up a conversation with anyone. I have personally field-tested each one of these tactics when approaching a beautiful girl, and they works like CRAZY!

#1 Ways To Start A Conversation: ‘The Facial Expression Trick’

Let me be honest with you. When I was starting out in daytime pickup, my approaching skills sucked. Like most guys out there, I hated the idea of approaching a beautiful woman and striking a conversation. So one of the clever thing I have done for myself is to build an attractive lifestyle and get women to do all the legwork. Yeah, it’s kind of lazy, but it works almost all the time, you see. 🙂

But I know that the only way to meet a beautiful girl in the street is to be a MAN and approach her.

Now, I am not a big fan of using long and complicated conversation starters. There’s too much to memorize. Instead, I use stuffs that is direct and simple, which also get the ball rolling.

Who wants to waste 10 minutes telling awkward story, hoping the woman will find it interestingIf I’m going to fail, why not fail fast, right?

So whenever I see an attractive woman, I use my facial ‘trick’ conversation starter, which works almost all the timeWith this simple trick, you can approach a girl without even uttering a word from your mouth.

When you’re in public spaces — streets, malls, cafes, or anywhere else — the natural thing to do is to observe who is around you. Your goal is to use your surroundings to your advantage.

And, once you see a girl…

You approach her and say whatever comes to your mind.

While doing so, hold eye contact with her, and smile. 🙂

And, whatever she’s saying/doing at that moment, flash an over-exaggerated look at her, which will make her giggle. I like to flash a funny and playful face.

Now, you might be wondering, Why this conversation starter works?

Here’s why: Most guys act too serious when they’re in a social settings like a club, bar, or a cafe. They’re self-conscious to be themselves, and they act they’re busy to give off that ‘tough guy’ vibe. I was that guy, too. 🙂

To set yourself from these pack of guys, what you should do, from now on, is show her that you don’t really give a damn about the OUTCOMEThat you don’t take life too seriously. By showing a girl or a woman that you’re playful and demonstrating that through expression, you show to her that you are ‘a FUN guy.’

Without even saying a word, she’ll immediatly know that you’re the type of guy she’ll be interested to meet.

For me, I say something like, ‘Hey, did you get my text message?’ (if she was reading something on her mobile). This only gets her to laugh even more.

So what type of faces you should make to start a conversation with a girl… without speaking?

Remember, there’s no hard and fast rule. But at least try to get her laugh.

Here are a few examples:

  • Give her a ‘pouty’ look
  • Stick your tongue out
  • Give her a mock-embarrassed look.
  • Show the exaggerated ‘pick up artist wink.’ 😉
  • Show a fake a suspicious look — like you’re not sure why she’s looking at you.
  • Do a mock ‘in love’ expression — grab your chest and flutter your eyes
  • Send a quick wave
  • Give a quick head tilt (like the “what’s up” expression)
  • Pretend to be really angry and then crack up into a smile.
  • Display big ‘shit-eating-grin’ smile. 😀

At this point in time, you must be thinking, How will it help me start a conversation with a girl?

Let me give you an example. I learned this trick from one of my close friends who was really good with women. He isn’t the most handsome guy in the room, but he’s pretty successful with women.

A few years back in time, he met his recent girlfriend at a nightclub. After talking with her and making an eye contact, he went to great lengths to make her laugh (at my expense, I might say.)

Being such a great friend that he is, Aaron ‘threw me under the bus’ just to get a laugh.

As I was busy talking with other people, he just looked over to this girl as she was talking with her friends, and all of a sudden, he started to do ‘fake-choking’ himself pointing at me with a smug look on his face. And before I could ask Aaron what the hell he was doing, he was across the room busy talking with his future girlfriend.

This brief story brings up a few KEY points:

  • You do not have to rely on pick up lines or gimmicks to start a conversation with a girl
  • Just a warm smile and a friendly attitude can be your ‘secret’ weapon of getting girls.

A few pointers: When using facial expression, she might look away from you, initially. And making an eye contact with a complete stranger could be uncomfortable for a lot of guys. But if you keep on practicing with more women, it will become easy and natural part of your life.

Oftentimes, a girl will look away for a while and then wait for a few seconds before looking back again.  And when she is doing this, MAKE SURE you do not turn away. Instead, keep smiling at her or nodding your head at her or use any of the ‘funny expressions‘ I just mentioned above to you.

Remember THIS: Just by being ‘playful,’ you can make any girl talk with you. And when you get a positive response — an enticing smile — from her, the only thing you’ll have to do is… learn how to approach a girl at first sight.

#2 Ways To Start A Conversation: ‘Ask For Her Opinion

The ‘opinion’ opener is also a great way to start a conversation with a girl. And applying this simple technique is surprisingly easy. You’ll have to approach a girl and ask for her opinion on things.

The ‘opinion opener’ does three things for you:

First of all, it allows you to start a conversation with a girl.

Secondly, it helps you get her attention — she has million other things to get distracted about.

And thirdly, it allows you to transition into getting to know her better mode.

That’s why this conversation starter is very different from other method because it sounds very natural, which is unlike any corny pickup lines that most guys use without any success.

Here’s WHY asking for a woman’s opinion WORKS:

  • Women LOVE to offer their opinions.
  • You can use the response you get from her and use it as a follow-up conversation.
  • You’re not outrightly displaying your intentions.
  • You become more interesting than other guys who don’t approach her.
  • Here are other few critical elements about ‘opinion opener’:

Insider tips: Try to make your opinion an open-ended question so that her response will be more than just a simple ‘Yes’ or ‘No.’

Secondly, if there other people in the group, involve everyone, and not just the girl you’re interested in. Do this to every group you approach so that they’ll get an impression you’re a FUN, outgoing guy.

Thirdly, to make the ‘opinion opener’ even more effective, give yourself a time constraintIf the group knows that you’re only going to stay there for a few minutes, then they’ll be more likely to open up with you and be friendly. You can easily accomplish this by starting the conversation like this: “Hey guys. A quick question…”

So you see constructing an opinion opener isn’t that difficult. You just have to sit down and think about 3 to 4 engaging questions you can ask any women.

Here are few opinion openers that I have used in the past, which worked really well with the ladies:

“Hey guys, just a quick question… My buddy and I was were having an argument yesterday that I hope you guys can settle…”

“We were having a discussion about our other close friend who cheated on her girlfriend and was caught red-handed…”

“Unfortunately, his girlfriend found this other girl’s g-string underneath his bed. To cover for himself, my friend told his girlfriend that he has a fetish for wearing women’s underwear. What’s really interesting is his girlfriend totally loves his new idea and makes him wear this G-string…”

“So can you guys help me solve this argument once and for all? What do you think: should he continue to cover himself or should he be honest with his girlfriend?”

Well, these opinion opener has been used by many guys in the past. So you’ll have to come up with something that’s a little bit different.

The main element I want you to pay attention is to the elements of humor, drama, and interest that’s been used in this opener. Remember to use all of these elements to create your own opener.

#3 Ways To Start A Conversation: ‘Go Direct

This conversation starter doesn’t require you to play any ‘mind games’ with the ladies. Many guys think they need a ‘magical line’ to talk to women. But that’s really not true.

Sometimes, being direct generates the best result.

Here’s what I mean: You approach a girl you’re interested and immediately let her know you want to get to know her better. To do this, you don’t use any pickup lines, gimmicks, and opinions. You simply let her know that you saw something interesting about her — the way she’s walking, her hairstyle, the earrings, or her long black coat — and you want to know more.

And, make sure to mention to her that you liked something about her that doesn’t have anything to do with her looks. So it should be an opener that relates to her action, behavior, or her style, rather than her attractiveness. That way you won’t seem to her as another corny pickup artist. Instead you’ll come across as ‘a confident guy’ who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid/shy to go for it.

In my case, I use different versions of this conversation starter when I do daytime pickup. I walk up to a woman and tell her how busy I am, but then there was something intriguing about her that really made me want to go and talk to her.

For example, I often say something like to start a conversation with a girl:

“Hey, I am on my way to (insert whatever you’re doing), but you seem like a friendly person (or, I like your long green coat that make your look classy and stylish) and I could not help but come up to you and say ‘Hi.’ My name is…”

Of course, this is a direct way of starting a conversation with women. She can either choose to get to know you better or she might say no. It’s like high risk/high reward thing.

Remember: With this conversation starter, you’ll often get rejected because the woman often has your looks and body language to judge you by. So if you’re not displaying a confident attitude, then she might blow you off.

But trust me when I say this: When the direct opener works, it really WORKS. If she’s interested in you, you can say goodbye to a lot of game playing that you often have to deal with indirect openers.

Rather, you’ll head to the point where you both know you like each other. It’s also a great way to escalate things physically with the girl.

Depending on the situation (and what you want), you may want to use variety of adjectives other than ‘nice’ or ‘cool.’

Here are few powerful adjectives you can use to make your direct opener even more effective:

  • Interesting
  • Intriguing
  • Funny
  • Amusing
  • Fascination
  • Awesome
  • Intoxicating

With this conversation starter, your action becomes random. If you do your approach right, you’ll come across as a confident guy who she has been fated to meet.

A great advice: The direct opener works really well during daytime pickup when you don’t have a lot of time to talk with people. Because of this, you’ll get right to the point, talk to her only for few minutes, and if you’re interested in her, ask for her number.

I highly recommend that you approach at least 5 to 10 women a day using this technique.

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