This post reveals 6 ingenious approach tactics to help you become better at approaching a random stranger — a cute girl you’re interested in — on the streets, malls, cafes, or anywhere else under the sun, and easily strike up a conversation with them (even if you’re shy and afraid in the past).
Hey there! What’s up?
So you want to learn how to start a conversation with a random stranger on the street?
I personally think that a lot of guys stop themselves from meeting and connecting with strangers — particularly girls — on the streets, cafes, and malls because they think they’re going to make a mess out of it. But I personally believe that these are the best opportunities you have for improving your social skills and developing your “social vibe.”
In this post, I’ll show you how to approach and interact with random strangers in public places, during the day, and minimize rejections.
But before I give you simple tips on striking up a conversation with a random stranger, I just want to talk a little bit about the “mindset” you must develop: always expect to receive a “positive” outcome from any interactions.
If you have this positive mindset, you’ll end up having a meaningful conversation, and connect with others, emotionally, too. In order to evoke emotions in other people, you must be the one to evoke it first. You must feel it first.
And as you develop the “mindset” of always expecting a positive outcome from your interactions with random strangers, you’ll naturally be more positive, and the girl you’re interacting will feel that positive vibe from you too.
Here are 6 things you can focus now to become a better at approaching a random stranger on the street and having a conversation:
I can’t emphasis enough how important it is to have a smile on your face when approaching a girl. When you approach a girl on the streets, she has absolutely no idea who you are as a person. And so to make her comfortable, you need to put a big smile on your face, just to make sure you’re not a threat to them.
And remember, you must smile at her throughout the interaction. Don’t worry if it feels false at first. Just try it, and over time, it’ll become a habit. You’ll smile and interact without even thinking about it.
2. Talk slowly
When talking a stranger on the street, we tend to get a little bit anxious about facing awkward silences and running out of things to say. But silences is also important as it helps build tension and attraction.
Waiting for at least 3 to 5 seconds before responding can build more attraction than opening your mouth and saying a word.
And when you talk, talk slowly as it will give you enough time to think what to say to her, and she’ll feel calm and relaxed as she sees you calm and relaxed talking with her.
3. Always think “win-win”
When I approach a girl on the street, I often place my interactions in either of these two mental cabinets: “This went really well!” or “That was hilarious!”
Most guys learning how to approach a girl on the street do it wrong. Their second mental cabinet is labelled as “That sucked,” and end up leaving themselves open to a lot of negative feedbacks from the girls.
But here’s a secret that I learnt from a lot of charismatic peope: they never have a “negative” mental cabinet, and hence, they never have anything bad happen to them, because they choose to re-frame all of their interactions as something that was just a bit of a laugh.
Here’s my advice: Change the label of your second mental cabinet to “That was fun!” and by doing this, your interactions will either go really well, or really funny!
I no longer have a mental cabinet “That sucked!” in my mind, and so I just end up getting even more funny stories to share.
Now let’s look at what you’re going to say to her…
4. Grab her attention
And here’s what you should do first before you even talk to her: get her attention. Too many guys start to talk to a girl even before she’s ready to listen to them. By getting her attention before talking, you avoid the awkward situation where you’ve said something to her but she does not have any clue about what you said to her.
You can say “Hi, excuse me for a second,” or a simple “Hello” followed by a long pause to get her attention.
5. Pace her reality
The next thing you should do is pace her reality. What I mean by this is when you approach a girl out of nowhere, you acknowledge that it was indeed random and that you just wanted to say hi to her.
For example: you can say, “Hi, I know it’s totally random, but I had to come over here and say hi to you. I like your style and think you’re attractive. What’s your name?”
When you acknowledge like this, you immediately separate yourself from all the pack of guys who lack social intelligence. When you admit that it’s random, you put her at ease, and she’ll more likely be open to talk to you.
And if she looks as if she’s in a rush to go somewhere, you can tell her that you understand that she’s in a rush, and just wanted to say hi to her, which will make her stop and talk to you for a while, because she now knows that you’re not going to keep her for too long.
6. Playfully persevere
Finally, your next goal when learning how to start having a conversation with a random girl on the street is to barrel through the next 20 to 30 seconds of the interaction. I’ll admit it can be really difficult to do — especially when you’re starting to learn to approach and talk with random girl — but it’s very important you do it.
This is because there’s still something in the back of her head that tells her that she’s interacting with a random stranger in the streets. You can easily barrel through this brief period by exuding your enthusiasm onto her.
Hopefully, after reading this post, you’ve gotten a better picture of the best way to start a conversation with a random girl on the streets.
I hope you’ll go out today and try it to that cutie walking alone in the streets!
P.S. BTW, if you want to learn 20 creative ways to keep the conversation flowing, then click here.