Deadly dating tips for men (make her obsessed about you)
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A lot of guys have one common question: “What’s the best way to approach a girl, without getting rejected? What to say to her after I approach her? When should I make my move?” among many other questions.
If you’ve been asking yourself these questions, you need dating tips for men that actually works, not some random tips you’ve found on the internet.
When it comes to dating a girl or a woman, a lot of dynamics are involved.
- You need to approach her, first.
- You need to deliver your opener.
- Then you need to get her attention so that she doesn’t immediately leave.
And then, you need to handle her objections like a pro… so that she doesn’t act rude to you and keep on interacting with you.
And, once you’ve overcome her objections, you need to engage her into the interaction by displaying your personality (a lot of guys don’t do this), leading the interaction, and being both interesting and interested.
If you don’t know how to do any one of these things, then use these dating tips for men to get better results with women, starting today:
Dating tips for men #1: Approach her, immediately
When I see a girl I’d like to meet at public places — in the streets, at the bars, cafes, or at malls — I make my move towards her, even though I am feeling nervous and afraid.
When I do this, I feel tension in my body, and confidence, which wasn’t already there before, starts to radiate through my body.
Dating tips for men #2: Grab her attention
As I move towards her, I go and grab her attention. It’s an important step, but a lot of guys don’t do it.
If you do not command her attention, then she won’t be able to process what you’re saying to her.
So go and grab her attention. How?
If she’s walking all by hersefl towards you, walk straight towards her, slowly, and force her to come to a complete stop.
Or, if she’s walking away from you, run after her — from the side, of course — and ask her to stop.
If you do this correctly, she’ll have no other option but to stop.
Or, if she’s sitting down, sit down near her, smile, and make yourself comfortable, and then…
Dating tips for men #3: Deliver your opener
Once you’ve managed to grab her attention, say, “Hey… (and then, take a loooooooooooooong pause)…”
Then smile slowly, lock your eyes with her, and deliver ‘this line’ on her:
“Hey, I know it’s totally random and I’m a complete stranger to you, but you know what, as I was walking by, I saw you, and I just wanted to tell you that I like your style and that you are, really, really beautiful. My name is <your name>. Tell me something about you.”
Dating tips for men #4: Be prepared for contingency
When you deliver your opener, three things can happen.
- She likes it and smiles back at you. She becomes friendly with you. She asks you questions.
- She sort of likes it. She’s not enthusiastic about it, though. She’s just being polite and sticks around a bit to see what you have to say.
- She gives you one of many objections or tries to walk away.
Out of all these 3 scenarios, the ‘3rd’ type of objection is what I love the most because it challenges me as a man, and allows to express my ‘personality’ and ‘positive qualities’ to a girl I’m talking to.
Here are a few ‘3rd type’ of objections you might face from a girl and (how to handle it):
Scenario #1: “I have a boyfriend.”
You: Deliver your opener
Girl: I’m sorry, but I have a boyfriend.
You: Awesome, so what do you do for fun?
Did you notice what you actually did? You didn’t even notice her objection.
One of the most powerful ways to deal with objections is to be INDIFFERENT.
Scenario #2: She walks away while you’re still talking to her
You: Talk, talk, talk
Girl: Talks for a while and walks away.
You: (Smile) Oh, come on now. You’re too ‘classy’ to be walking away when someone is talking to you. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in any way then just walk away. Runaway girl, runaway girl (sing playfully). Anyways… what do you do for fun?”
Let me ‘break down‘ this for you.
First of all, you set up an expectation for her. You tell her she’s way too “classy” to walk away, and of course, she wants to be perceived as classy so she’ll stay for a bit.
And you tell her to walk away, which is ‘reverse psychology.’
And you act like it never happened by asking her a question, which engages her back in the conversation.
Scenario #3: She’s “rude” and doesn’t acknowledge your presence.
You: Talk, talk, talk
Girl: Says something rude like, “Why are you talking to me?” or she doesn’t look at you, or something to that effect.
You: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you be yourself? I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from, people are ‘real.’ If you’re not going to be real, I’m just going to walk away (act as if you’re about to leave). I know this is not who you really are. This is just a protection shield.
You could even say…
You: I know, just look around you. There are a lot of ‘creeps’ out there trying to get something from you. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. I’m almost sure. So let’s give this a shot one more time, I’m Joe.
See how you called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that you are a man who demands respect in an interaction. This is very powerful stuff.
Dating tips for men #5: Imagine you are ‘a gift’
From now on, your job as a daytime pickup artist is to… provide a lot of “positive emotions” to every woman you meet.
You give them an unforgettable experience. You take them on an ’emotional rollercoaster’ ride with you, away from the mundane world she’s already in.
It might not make any sense to you now, but it works incredibly well for you.
When I go out and pick up girls, I feel really happy 🙂 because I know I’m making her day.
Then getting results with women — getting more phone numbers, instant dates, and even a relationship — becomes super easy because you know you have something to offer to them: a lot of positive EMOTIONS.
Let me ask you a question: What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that only if women knew you, they’d fall for YOU?
So are you conveying your ‘personality’ in an interesting way? Is she getting to know you better, or are you just talking out of your ass?
Next time you’re out on a date with a girl or a woman, take 5 minutes and IMAGINE you are someone she’s been waiting for all of her life. She’s been dreaming about YOU, read about you in books, has seen you in movies, and you’re the guy she talks about endlessly with her best friends.
Now here’s the catch: She’ll find out that it’s YOU only after she’s gotten to know you.
In order for this to happen, you’ll have to show her your ‘personality.’
So next time you’re interaction with a girl, think you’re ‘a gift’ and imagine you’re giving that “gift” to her.
By thinking and believing you’re a gift, you’ll instantly have the upper hand in the interaction (and not the other way around).
Dating tips for men #6: Be interesting… and interested
I want you to go back at some point in your life and recall an interaction where someone talked way toooooooo much. It was as if you’re watching a TV because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all, wasn’t it?
Or, can you recall an interaction with someone where the other person kept asking you question after question, without really contributing anything at all?
How do you solve this major conversational flaw?
Here’s how: Strive for balance.
As a man, you take the lead, but also get her to follow your lead. You make her invest in the interaction. You also make it easier for her to contribute to the interaction.
Dating tips for men #7: Lead the interaction… first.
“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.” ~ Gandhi
I want you to take a pause and think back to all the conversations you’ve had in the past with women.
Were you comfortable, relaxed, and at ease during the interaction? Were you sharing ‘secrets’ and vulnerabilities with each other? Were you exchanging funny stories from your lives? Were you speaking formally or casually, like friends do? Were you able to build substance and familiarity?
If you want her to do something, you must do it… first. If you want her to open up to you, you must open yourself up to her… first. You lead the interaction first and expect her to follow.
Next time you’re having a conversation with someone, instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying, “What do you do for a living?” tell them a “short story” about what you do. Instead of asking, “How are you?” say, “I’m feeling so happy today, you don’t even have a clue why.”
And, watch how people respond to you.
Dating tips for men #8: Avoid hesitation.
Be firm and let the other person in the interaction know WHAT you want.
Instead of muttering, “Umm, I don’t know… I was thinking… perhaps… um, we could hang out sometime…” say, “Hey, I’m going to a live concert this Friday evening. It’s going to be a blast, and you should tag along.”
Do not flinch. Do not be nervous.
Dating tips for men #9: Build familiarity.
After you’ve grabbed her attention through your presence, you want to get to know her on multiple levels to build a strong connection with her. No, you don’t have to know her entire life story, but just make sure to touch base to build both familiarity and substance with her.
You want to…
- display your personality throughout the interaction.
- figure out what makes her so special, and
- what makes her tick.
You want mutual appreciation. You want her to remember you when she wakes up the next morning. You want to make a “strong impression” on her so that she won’t stop rambling about you with her best friend the moment your conversation ends.
By following any of these dating tips for men, you immediately stand out from all the other guys she’s met in the past, because you’re not answering her questions in a ‘boring way.’ You’re demonstrating a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her. And, when you lead the conversation (she knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator.)
It also gives her a ‘window of opportunity’ to see how you view the world around you and what type of person you are. It makes her feel comfortable and easier to open herself up to you.
Now, go out and make it happen.
P.S. Want to learn more dating tips for men that actually WORK?
If you do not know…
- How to grab her attention so that she’ll stop, not walk away, to talk to you.
- How to display your personality so that she’ll engage with you in the interaction immediately…
- How to turn a friendly, safe, and boring conversation into something that is more fun, interesting, and playful, not ‘boring,’ so that she’ll view you as a fun and playful guy…
- How to be both interesting and interested… so that she’ll be rambling about you with her best friend the moment your conversation ends…
… then here’s a ‘killer’ resource that might be helpful for you.