Today, I want to unravel to you one of the sexiest traits you can show to a girl…
And that’s your…
What is confidence?
It’s about being sure of yourself.
And that’s what a girl wants from you: a man who is sure of himself and his intentions.
That’s her best possible choice. That’s the best possible position for her to be. That going back to your place for a sizzling sex is the best possible outcome she can experience.
Simply because… she doesn’t have a clue.
Because she can’t make up her mind.
Simply because she doesn’t know how.
And, she doesn’t want to make the decision by herself.
All women suffer from the so-called “please will you make up my mind for me?” syndrome.
And it exists in EVERY stage of the relationship – right from the very first moment you walk up and talk to her, to the very first time she’ll striptease for you, and to the moment she’s whispering “I love you” in your ears.
You see, women want to be led by a guy. She wants to be told what to do. She wants to feel like she has no control over the outcome.
Why do they let a guy lead?
Because it absolves of the responsibility and blame. This way she can say later “It was your decision, not mine…” or “I didn’t know what was happening.”
And, the most important thing why she doesn’t want to take the leas is: Women DO NOT want to be wrong.
This explains why girls hate men who are needy. Because if you display to her that you’re not sure of yourself … or why she should like you… then she’ll start to second guess herself. It happens when you approach her. It happens when you ask her out on a date. It happens again when you’re trying to get laid with her.
So, here’s the moral of the story: NEVER put her in a place where she has to be the one to say “Yes” or “No” to move things to more intimate level.
Because girls don’t want to make that decision.
As a MAN, it’s your responsibility to make that happen.
This is particularly true when it comes to getting out of that “friend zone.”
I still remember my first crush with whom I went out for three years without getting physical. I started to become really attracted to her.
Then, one fine day, I decided to make my move on her. But I knew a lot of guys don’t: I must not display my feeling verbally because it would give her a chance to make up her mind, and that’s the last thing we guys want.
Instead, on a ski trip with a group of friends (her included) and after a night of partying and flirtations… I went for the kiss.
She let me kiss her but then quickly turned around her head. A few moments later I kissed her again.
That night we kissed a few more times.
The following morning she got up and told me she didn’t want things to take weird and what had happened that night was a mistake.
I met her later that night and kissed her again. She pushed me. I kissed her again. Again she pushed me.
(Interesting thing: Every time I kissed her, she kissed me back.)
The next morning when I woke up, and after having realised that I’ve shown her my cards, I said to myself I am not going to try anything again.
But the moment she saw me that morning, she started to kiss me. The end up sleeping together the rest of the weekend.
Then it finally hit me…
I had successfully made up her mind for her. She didn’t want to ruin our friendship and that’s why she hesitated, but eventually, when I took the lead, she followed.
So, you see, confidence is one of the key traits that all players have. (Here are other 7 key traits of a player.)
They act as if there’s no doubt why the girl would not be interested in them.
They don’t doubt the girl would not kiss them. There’s no doubt in their mind the girl could be their girlfriend.
And, now compare THAT type of attitude to the usual attitude of a typical ‘Nice Guy.’
The nerdy guy is not confident. He is not sure of himself. He constantly needs her approval that she likes him. That he’s not making mistakes.
And this neediness is what causes him to be needy in the first place. Because he’s not sure she likes him, that’s why he needs to send her text for her assurance. Or, he constantly wants to hang out with her just to be sure.
Girls can pick up this neediness from million miles away. And it’s highly unattractive. And guess what happens? It creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Here’s the lesson: Do everything in your power to replace your insecurities with confidence.
Girls want a man who is sure of himself.
Girls want a leader. Someone who takes charge.
For example, instead of asking her if you can get her phone number, you simply tell her to give it to you. In fact, simply give her your phone and tell her to type it in. She’ll do it.
And, when you’re two together on a date, never say, “What do you like to do?” or “Where do you want to go?” Rather say, “I will pick you up at 9pm and we’re going for bowling. We’ll also grab a bite there.”
Be SURE of yourself.
REMOVE the insecurity and doubt from your mind completely. All those thoughts of “is the place I’ll take her a good place?” or “does she like me?” or “Should I kiss her now or later?”
REMOVE them and replace with CONFIDENCE.
Go out and make it happen
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